I'm in my late twenties. I've been hurt so many times I don't think I'm even capable of intimacy anymore, but I also don't miss it most of the time. What is the point anyway? To me it is just an antiquated physical drive to trick us into procreating that our species honestly doesn't need anymore. I understand the need to have outside mental stimuli from other people, but I don't understand why this has to come in the form of an intimate relationship. I think as the years go by into the future, intimate relationships will become less and less the norm as people begin to see how how useless they are.

I think for most people the lack of emotional and physical intimacy is the hardest part of being alone. Hugs

everyone craves physical affection and affection in generally. maybe youve been approaching it differently? perhaps try looking at it from a different perspective. Personally i feel like in order to fully love someone we should be able to love ourselves first.

try going against the grain and getting into online dating site activities...dating is the only way to get into physical relationships...and dating today has taken a turn toward the internet....so get with the program and reach out there...unless you have issues with health that happen to keep you cooped up in house you can go on dates with men from websites that are fee free until the right guy comes along....try OKCupid or Plentyoffish that are both free....hugs bill

I will say this. When you do start dating.....find a guy who shares your interests because when the fire is out you will have nothing to keep you together. I am with someone who is opposite of me and it is not going well.

i am married and i find myself alone alot even still, but mine loneliness is in my head and unfortunately is a bottomless feeling, i am sorry you are enduring this and when you least expect it, it will happen,

Everyone on here makes it sound so easy. I have been on those stupid dating sights that are basically men clicking on mouse button over and over and judging woman by photos and then wanting to meet you without having to do any work.

I think people missed the point here, you didn't ask for suggestions, you wanted to talk about how you FEEL. It's not so easy to meet the right person, it's just not. Sometimes our loneliness also comes from things like illness and that has isolated us from community and careers and such.

I got sick in 03 and in 10 my long term relationship dumped me. I hate when people say no one will love you til you love yourself cause that is bullshit because there are billions of people in relationships that don't love themselves and that others still love us.

I know how you feel and appreciate why you posted.

You sound like the female version of me! The longing for a relationship with a woman gnaws at the core of my being and it takes a lot of willpower to stay upbeat. It has been so long and I can't understand why it seems so "easy" for some people. And for me it is not for lack of trying. I live in a big city but I never seem to meet the right people/women ... You are not alone in how you feel!

I know how u feel. it's kinda hard to say where u should start. I hope u will be able to find your way. In the mean time, we r all here for u.

ronald, i was so impressed by your response, i didn't even need to read the others.

thank you.

personally i do not feel that intimate relationships are entirely useless . . . but upon reading further i agree with some others about loving self first . . . very concise and wise, in my mind anyway.