Sounds like you're hanging around a bunch of high school kids. You need to find more mature people to be around.

I see people building each other up all the time around here.
I had to laugh at your comment about being a Democrat, I
don't think that is a reason why you don't have a girlfriend.
And yes, people suck sometimes, you just have to pick who
you want to hang out with, Choose wisely.

Your needs may not be met at the moment but to everything there is a time and a season under the son. Hang in there friend.

Jasper, many cities/towns have classes you can enroll in and they are everything from photography, to computer, to language, to exercise, dancing, art, and the list goes on and on. Our city even has a free current events group, a free book group and more.

Try looking for the groups that get together for bicycling, hiking, or the morning walks in the malls, or we even have an art in the park. The idea is to get yourself out of your home, out into the world and start doing things that you can use as material to talk to other people.

You can't get your happiness from others or depend on them for your happiness--so it has to come from you.

Politics has nothing to do with it, unless you open your mouth to start debating people and get carried away with it--and that turns others off.

Being a Democrat has nothing to do with it (unless you're the only Democrat in a room or a town full of Republicans!); you just have to tread lightly when you open your mouth about politics, and open your mouth about other subjects too, in an inquisitive tone, not to open a debate, but ask questions so others can see you don't know it all, and want to learn new things.

Hmmm you're a Democrat and don't have a girlfriend, but, Obama is also a Democrat and has a wife.

So ummm..what do u think is the "real" problem?

Jasper, it seems like a culture people (especially in social situations) having all this self-importance. I know for fact that those people are (a) hiding some kind of reality they don't want to face, and (b) very insecure inside.

So I have learned to never feel less than them just because of their lame attempts at getting attention and recognition.

Not sure that your political affiliation has anything to do with having a girlfriend (unless you look for one at the GOP convention or something). Maybe you mean that your values and principles differ from those of your female friends? Maybe one of your friends can introduce you to a nice gal.

Pay no mind to people; it's waste of time. Behind those attitudes lie a lot of insecurities, probably worse than the ones we share here in this group.