we have a spot here at ds for those who are unemployed...but your loneliness is noted too...I am sure he misses you too....basically you keep looking for a job and take what comes along and let him come to you when he is able...if his desire is strong he will come...if he is lazy he will just do the whimpy I am done routine....hugs bill

congrats on degree....I work with engineers from India....who do cell phone data collections...most of them have MS or masters degree in engineering

Thank you for that. I know that he will follow me where ever I go.

Have you ever thought of taking the chance anyway even if you mom doesn't like it? She has to let you live, she can't hold on to you forever. All moms are like that at first but once they see your ok and still keeping in touch things could be ok.

Best Wishes hope you find away to cope, good luck and congrats on your degree.

So I spoke with my mom about it. She is letting me move to Colorado to live with my boyfriend for a while to see if I can get work. Mothers!!! They are awesome.

Im thinking about going back to school and doing more with my degree. Things are working itself out. Thanks to all who have supported me. You are great. If yall need any advice don't hesitate to ask.

Take Care all. :)

I am looking back on my life and regretting that I let my parents do this same thing to me. I passed up multiple opportunities after college to stay in the same town.

I so wish that I would have used my twenties to be somewhere fun and exciting and to live a life on my own.

I would say to find some headhunters or a civil engineering society and start networking to find a job. You have an incredible degree and future ahead of you -don't let someone hold you back from living your best life.

I am now 42 and still in the same town -longing for the days gone by that I wasted by not living my own dream.

Whoops...I just saw your latest post...good for you...so happy that you are going to Colorado!!! Good luck to you! :)

Thank you Healings. That means a lot to me!

Why in the world are you letting your impression of what yor mother wants, dictate your actions? Live YOUR life! Your mother lived her life. Listen to her, but you are ultimately responsible for your life and happiness.

Consider the pros and cons of moving. Apply for jobs in Colorado, and provide the date you will next visit in the cover letter. You might get lucky.

I would pack up asap and go to colorado as soon as u can. Your mom already knows she is wrong. You dont owe her anything. But u owe yourself to be happy. You r an adult, and if u wanna go to colorado, u have that right to, no matter what anyone says, especially a parent. Your mom could be very jealous of u inside her heart, and honestly does not want u to be happy, (especially with a man) and u would "never even" know it. I would be packing right about now if I was u while refusing to allow anyone, especially a mom to control me "anymore".

Oooops, I just saw your latest post too. I'm glad u r going to move. Bet there is a job for u there within the 1st week. Good luck.

Good Luck in Colorado.