I am sorry you are feeling like this. I think some people are so caught up in everything here and have lots of time that they get more responses. I usually get the same group of people responding to my posts. I also think that IVF and pragnancy groups are alot more encouraging than some other groups and if you aren't in either you are left floundering a little. Take heart it is not that you are lousy or worthless at all. Hope you feel a little better. XO :)

I tend to feel guilty about not responding more often. I know I am guilty of not checking in on all my friends (you included) as frequently as I would like. I tend to respond to whatever is in the news feed that has been posted recently - so, for example, if I had been working with a student right now I might have missed this and never responded! From what I can gather, people are busy. Many of my friends on here are here less frequently. I would try not to take it personally. Please :) Hugs!

i currently don't have a journal, but if i did, i wouldn't expect anyone to read it, let alone comment on it. if someone was interested in what i was thinking and they wanted to read it fine, but i wouldn't think my writing constitutes an obligation on the part of others. i guess i thought of the journal as sort of a self help tool.

if you need support, i would post it here just like you did.

firstly hun, you should not let others dictate by the actions or inactions how you feel about yourself, if someone doesnt reply then so be it, i wouldnt take it to personal.
Another mistake is that you are comparing yourself to others, and are falling into the popularity mindset.
Perhaps you could focus on your own issues and let others worry about theirs.
take care.

No, this site hasn't made me feel worse. I do not know if you noticed but your journals are private so how can anyone post anything to a private journal? I don't know if you were referring to your friends on this site or the whole site in general but your journals are in fact private to the public.

awww im sorry i do however know or have an idea of how it is. i feel the same way yes. and the same has happened to me. honest ill read your journals idk why ppl do not . you are important just as much as anyone else here. i know its tough but remember ppl here have problems thats why they are here.i have learned that the hard way. so im not too dissapointed if things dont go like i thought they would. best wishes rd

reddog201 - you make a REALLY good point and I will think of it from now on with this site - people have problems that is why they are here...

Nah, I have a few people that read my journal, but I really don't write it for them, I write it for myself. But I always post responses on the journals written by those people who post to mine.

I wouldn't take it personally. Frankly I only read the discussion threads; very rarely do I look at journals. Can't speak for the others. But do try to hang in there. Loneliness and depression is something you can get past or at least keep under control. But it takes work. God bless.

I would feel this way on Facebook, but not as much on here. However, I do not often get return posts to my journals, and I just don't write as many or if I write them I write for myself and without expectation. I came off of Facebook because of this issue, but have still found value in coming here. You can't measure your worth by how many people respond to you - that's a big part of the reason a lot of us are here and lonely to begin with. Hang in there!

It could be the computer setting they set with DS. A lot of people do not want excess emails coming in, so they set it that way. Unfortunately that means they will not get any journal entries on their email to reply to. I dont think it's anything personal.

Frankly I think this is a rather stuffy lot here. No wonder people here are empty and lonley. I am lonley too. My wife left me two years ago. I have tried some dating sites in hopes I might try again, but with little luck. I am not good looking. I am sorry for your sadness. I care if no one else does. I know what it is like to hurt inside, but I will still reach out. I came on here new, one person welcomed me and this person said they were thinking about leaving. I know a lot of people here are hurting. Takes little to say hi at least. To answer your question, yes I do see why you would feel the way you do maybe.

I have replied many times to people trying to support them in positive ways. I do have my share of problems also. When I have seen someone down or hurting I jump right in to try and comfort them. When I am down or hurting I write a small post and nothing happens. It's like I have no friends. I have felt rotten alot of times and this site has made me feel way worse (at times) than I usually do. Why does a person reply to being a friend when they never write or support you? I know they say 'You have to be a friend to have a friend." I think some people need to work on friendship skills. I am contemplating leaving this site site. Some of the citeria for being a good support group is not here at DS and I shouldn't feel worse or rejected in a support group.

reply #13 smiles47, You said, "Why does a person reply to being a friend when they never write or support you"? The reason is because, when someone friends a person, it would be very rude to not hit "accept'. Hitting "ignore" instead is enough to make a person leave DS. That's why. The best way to handle that is to make a post in group that says something like, "Please nobody is to friend me unless I make friends with them here in group and we agree "in group" to keep in touch. Other than doing that, i can't think of any other way to resolve the problem.

Expectations create resentments. I just try to read 'friends in need' because I am on mobile broadband and time is money. Its not that I don't care. Funny too, if I do comment on someone's journal they often don't acknowledge it. And I have had so many people ask to be friends and never hear from them again, nor do they respond to hugs etc. What is this? FB or something? Its a support group, not a 'how popular am ' group. Just believe in yourself hon. You are important.