Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
I'm new here but I wonder if you'd indulge this question.
I am lonely to the point of physical pain. I can barely breath. I cry all the time. And I find myself reading about it a lot - searching the net for other lonely people, "cures", suggestions, help, insight. So often I read the same stories over and over. They're familiar and sad and I never close my laptop feeling empowered or encouraged or even less lonely.
Does reading about it and focusing on my sadness and loneliness and talking about it magnify it? Someone told me that if I focus on it, I'll find things that reinforce it. (I don't know if that's true. I think it just is what it is...a matter of fact...I'm lonely.) But I just wonder if anyone else finds themselves just sadder, more empty, less fulfilled by giving voice to the grief. Do you ever just wonder if it would go away if you ignored it? (As if that's possible?)
I am lonely to the point of physical pain. I can barely breath. I cry all the time. And I find myself reading about it a lot - searching the net for other lonely people, "cures", suggestions, help, insight. So often I read the same stories over and over. They're familiar and sad and I never close my laptop feeling empowered or encouraged or even less lonely.
Does reading about it and focusing on my sadness and loneliness and talking about it magnify it? Someone told me that if I focus on it, I'll find things that reinforce it. (I don't know if that's true. I think it just is what it is...a matter of fact...I'm lonely.) But I just wonder if anyone else finds themselves just sadder, more empty, less fulfilled by giving voice to the grief. Do you ever just wonder if it would go away if you ignored it? (As if that's possible?)
We're all wired differently and different things will work for different people. For the most part, constantly focusing on something (depression, loneliness, etc.) will make it a big thing in your life and turn it into a bigger monster than it already is.
The way I am learning to handle loneliness and painful feelings is summed up in my "status" for today. Give it a read and if you want to talk more, send me a message.
All the best!
I;ve had the same problem where I dwell on my issues nonstop, and I noticed that when I'm not thinking about them, things actually improve (that is until I start to agonize again).
Maybe find something to distract you outside of your home, or if you like reading focus on books with happy stories instead of books that talk about loneliness.
Best of luck to you.
Peace and Warmth, Breezy