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mas5707
mas5707
College is supposed to be the best years of a young person's life. For me, it's actually been the worst. I go to Penn State, the number one party school in the country. For most people this is a great thing. For me, this is a awful thing. I have just completed my third semester here, and haven't gone to one party yet. It seems that EVERYONE goes out and gets drunk or gets high or both EVERY night. On one hand, I am actually glad I don't do this. I don't want to wake up and deal with limitless poor choices that I could of made that night, ranging from sleeping with someone else's significant other and ruining their relationship to damaging property. On the other hand, it seems that I'm the only one not doing it. I don't think that people realize that these poor choices happen a WAY lot more than they think. It's depressing. I just want to meet people like me, who don't need to go out and get wasted to have a good time. I just want to meet a girl who thinks it's not OK to get a little too friendly every guy they can. I know I am rambling but this is the only place I can.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Even though I am not of college age, I know when I was in high school and college it seemed everybody went out and got drunk or stoned. I seemed really the outcast because I did not do those things. I know my ex-husband's family thought it was funny that I did not drink and tried to get me to drink. At every occasion that I go to that there is alcohol I always almost get pressured to drink. Well, you know what, in college I became good friends with a recovering alcoholic who was going to AA and she wanted to hang out with me because I was one of the few people who did not drink. I have an eating disorder and she introduced me to a 12 step program for eating which I have gotten a lot of help from. I also know that being a food addict I probably would have been an alcoholic if I started drinking. And to top it all off, my boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic who has 25 years of sobriety in AA, and we probably never would have met if I had started drinking. He is very against drinking and drugs. He says he is always amazed at the fact that I never started drinking or doing drugs. So you see, there really are people out there who don't drink or do drugs, even though it seems the majority of people do. Hope that makes you feel better. I think you are saving yourself a lot of pain by not drinking or doing drugs.
HEPCinRVA
HEPCinRVA
There must be some clubs or groups in your school that don't emphasize partying. PA State is a pretty big school.
I don't know if you are religious but church groups generally eschew the hard partying lifestyle and most mainstream faiths have on campus ministries. Also check out the more academic oriented groups. And try off campus life!
IMO, too many young people put too much into partying ,etc. At least you will get a good education!