I've often wondered that too... but as time goes on I see those with "so many" start to lose them. The bad guys never truly keep anybody good in their lives.... the good people eventually see them for their true colors and drop off like flies. It is the bad people that seem so surrounded in early life... but end up with the worst kind of loneliness in the end... whereas the good people may spend a lot of time alone in the beginning... but in the end well find themselves surrounded by true meaningful company.

U took the words right out of my mouth . . . I hear ya!

They don't face loneliness because they can't handle any introspection - they must surround themselves with others, however superficial, to try to ward it off, but that doesn't mean it isn't there. Eventually it will catch up with them - those of us who can face loneliness, know what it is, and deal with it, are much better off than those surrounded by people they think will make them less lonely in the short term, but won't be there in the long run.

My son is one of those guys. He has more friends and friendships than anyone I know. You know what, he is the loneliest person I have ever know. Sometimes what we see is not the real person. These people hurt just like we do that is why they act the way they do.

I agree with donna. We don't see the real person most of the time, and I'm sure those popular guys are just as lonely, or even more so, than us.

I'm just wondering if it is lonelier to be surrounded by "friends" or to be yourself. I have no friends and spend all my free time outside of work at home. I very rarely go out in public unless it is to the grocery store. I buy everything else I need on line. True.. I get lonely for human companionship.. but for now in my life.. being alone is OK.

sometimes being alone hurts so much I can not breath. Im not looking for anything long term. It would be nice to have someone i could just call up and invite over.

It does seem like some people have all the luck. Life seems so easy for them while we struggle just to keep going. I had friends until I got Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and we moved to Vermont.

I have no way to make friends because I am housebound most of the time. In addition to having CFS, I have back problems, arthritis, and had breast cancer.

My dream finally came true and I made a wonderful friend. 18 months later she died of brain cancer. Then my husband was offered an incredible opportunity and we would have moved to France. We would have lived in France and been part of a close community. The guy who said my husband was his first choice called and said he had hired someone else.

It was a terrible blow to both of us. Our marriage has always been rocky but recently he's tried to make me more of a priority. In France we would have had only each other and he would finally have to take care of me.

Now I'm worse off and lonelier than ever.

it would seem that the idea of this perfect sharing partner is fairly popular but I would say if you think that humanity is failing - maybe reconsider. The poisonous system into which we are born, is hardly room enough for loyalty to be held between our fellow man.

Our society requires people to be greedy and selfish in order to survive . Break free of this dogma and perhaps be some of the first to resist it and make meaningful change, else tolerate it.