Since we are little we are all taught (boys and girls) to be leary of strangers..so it is more common for people not to be overly friendly with a stranger..just to pass the time of day..so please don't take it personal..just the way of society.
Getting involved with hobbies/sports..what interests you will bring people to you and in time friendships will be formed and if you take your time with that friendship then it could become more than just a friendship..but unless you get involved with one of those meeting /dating sites,a person can't just go out and meet Mr or Mrs right-doesn't normally happen and it isn't just you.

Many people have their own problems Jasper, it just doesn't show on the outside. They may also be wary of strangers because of past bad experiences. Don't take it personally. Other people can't make you happy, you can only make yourself happy by doing what's meaningful in life to you. This usually means hobbies and clubs. Good luck

Don't take it personally. It's their loss, not yours. Hugs Gramybear

as I learned, don't try too hard to be noticed..just do your thing, and then, they will notice you..if not, don't let it get ypou down..love takes time, sometimes

jasper: Um...not to put too fine a point on it or offend, but why should they? What do you bring to their table? Just posing a rhetorical question. Everyone's in their own struggle for survival. They're too busy righting themselves to stop for someone else. Gotta get on their cloud, I suppose, get in tune with their lives, offer to help them in some way.

I too have flirted and been nice with bartenders, and they're like "Yeah, yeah, that doesn't pay my rent. Have another beer. Run up a nice tab and tip me generously." It sucks, I know, but it's life.

Are you okay Jasper? There is nothing wrong with you. Sometimes it's hard to meet new people, especially if you are shy as it sounds as though you are. Women are very complicated. Ask any woman! LOL
Hugs Gramybear

everyone has their own story, their own demons, their own inner struggles. i do not feel very confident with myself. however, i have had many people tell me that they think i am confident and upbeat though, and i think to myself, well i must fake it better than i thought. and that's just at my baseline: i'm insecure, i feel others won't/dont like me.

then add in my current states of mind due to my cheating husband and impending divorce, as well as body-image issues from left-over pregnancy weight. now on top of lifelong insecurities, i have anxiety, loneliness, trust issues, low self image, struggling not to burst into hysterical tears in public, on and on. so while i am certainly not intentionally rude to anyone, i definitely keep to myself as much as possible out and a bout. i avoid making eye contact w others, i go about my own business, etc.

my point is, if i were one of the ladies that you ever saw out living her life, i wouldn't take the time out to talk to you. not because of you or anything about you. but because of me, and my own inner dialogue and inner problems. everyone has their own inner stuff, and some are like me, just trying to hold it together long enough to get home and cry in privacy. don't let it bring you down. just some food for thought from a different side of the coin. hugs!