sorry for the family abandonment....mine saw me thru the drugs and alcoholism and was staying with me and as I am right now sitting on my mom's couch writing this things are good between us...she is 90 now and I am 57 sober since 1995 and no drugs since quitting pot in 1982....quit hard drugs little bit before that like 1987-88,
anyway hope you make some friends here and get some comfort....hugs bill

Thanks bill... And congratulations on being sober... Your a rockstar man.. That's a big accomplishment, u are lucky to have family support, something I'd like to have someday in a family of my own, thanks for the reply hope your day is good..

its been blast today....I am home from helping my mom with a photo she needed of a quilt...she is entering it into show...needed me to take pics and email to Walgreens to develop them then I went and picked them up for her...so she is ready for sister to deliver the entry for her...

Nice, it's good to keep busy, my mom quilts too haha

I can relate. I am the black sheep in my family too. I am never included in family gatherings and am isolated from them. It took them 2-3 years to tell me that our dog past away. They thought I would go over the edge which is ridiculous.

One thing I learned is in therapy and with age is that my family is emotionally sick. I don't know why but it is just the way it is and that I can't change them. I tried and tried for most of my life to be someone they wanted but it was never enough.

Last year, my mother sent me an email and ordered me to sign some papers and at that point something inside of me was done. I have had it. So I had to let go. It has been rough and lonely but I feel more at peace. Now I need to look at myself and get to know myself.

Thank you for letting me share.

Some days I feel like the black sheep. Since my father died my mother doesn't rely on me as much. She is there if there is an emergency in my house but if she needs something, she doesn't call. Yes it was me who made the decision to stop efforts on my dad and let him die. I'm sure my mom has her opinion of me for that. Someone had to make the decision and she wasn't. My older sister hasn't talked to me in 18 years. Yeah, when dad was in ICU she expressed her opinion but we haven't really been sisters since her oldest turned 3, and even then she was distant. My younger sister lives with my mom and helps me with the kids but we don't hang out. She is 13 years younger than me and lives a different lifestyle.

My mother is also, in my opinion, jealous of me and what I'm doing with my life. I don't work outside of the house. I have held jobs, not for the money, but to help friends out and keep away the boredom of being home alone all day. We live a comfortable life. She however has had to work for 30 plus years just to make ends meet and can't retire yet. I get to go on vacations, we own half of a cabin, my kids get music lessons and have had braces (neither of which my parents approved of).

Do I wonder if I'm loved? Some days...yes. At least I have my hubby and kids to take care of and hopefully love me

It is sad that you are the black sheep. I would say you aren't alone with many there. I would say it is your family's loss. If you have a big heart and supportive in time you will have a family of your own. You will love them and accept them and of course they will love you ten times back.

Sorry about your family. They don't deserve to have you if they are going to be that way. And you don't deserve to put up with their crap.

Thank u all for the support... I agree I do have a huge heart and it's definetly my family's loss, I'm 29 now and I do want a family of my own but I just broke up with my gf and I feel like I'm starting over from scratch and it's just hard... I miss the support that my gf gave me but when it's not right what else can I do...

I know the black sheep feeling so you're definitely not alone. I also understand having a big heart, i too have one and some days can't decide if it's a blessing or a curse. You sound like a good person and if you ever want to talk more, I'm here. This site is a good outlet to get your issues out there and possibly meet people who can relate to your issues.

"Black sheep of the world;" funny. That is an interesting, odd phrase. . LOL

One cannot forget the family one grew up in completely. However ya' can get close to that . ;-)

Possibly you learned something with this last relationship? --You said the two of you are similar -- regarding certain rejection or ... issues. So maybe you'll meet someone who doesn't particularly care, um I mean doesn't notice real lots. Rejection reschmection, it goes right past them.

Am thinking of a type person who on occasion can do something appearing like rejection, from an objective point of view. But when confronted about it doesn't feel guilty. Because it was unintentional. . . . . . . . . 'nuff guff; . . . good luck . (((( A. ))))

I think this quote fits you perfectly so here it is:
It really doesn't matter who I use to be. all that matters is who I have become.
Try to remember that.
I am truly sorry that your parents are treating you like they are. What do we have if we don't have family that stands by us through the worst of times? So, if you don't have real family there, let us be your family. Hugs GB

God draws near to the brokenhearted. He leans toward those who are suffering. He knows what it feels like to be wounded and abandoned. Family is not about blood. It's about who is willing to hold your hand when you need it the most. God created you in His own image. He looks past your mistakes and He looks right at you and says, "There's my masterpiece. That's my son" . You are no mistake. Jesus did not bleed and die for a mistake. I know the feeling when you are left alone. I was once like that BUT because of Jesus I am set free and forgiven. Only Jesus make me smile again, His joy is my strength. I live to please HIM only. That's why It's never too late to be who you might have been. Having a rough day? Place your hand over your heart. Feel that? That's called purpose. You're alive for a reason. Jesus loves YOU. yes YOU. Today forget your past, forgive yourself and begin again with Jesus in your life. When God steps in, Miracles happen.! :) :) GOd Bless YOU. :)