Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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kaiaaa
kaiaaa

I’m a junior I’m high school, have very very few friends. Never been kissed never looked at, never been given a second glance by a guy. I think I look ugly and I’ve had some people tell me I look like I could model but when they say it I think they mean those “unique” models which is just code word for “not conventionally attractive aka ugly”. I’m also dark skin and nowadays guys especially black guys go out of their way to say how ugly they think dark skin girls are while calling light skin and white girls attractive. Now they are attractive, no hate, but it hurts a whole lot. I feel behind and alone and I also have social anxiety so I retreat to myself even in conversations with more than 5 people. And then even if I am having a conversation, there’s that voice in my head telling me I look ugly so I should look down, that my voice sounds disgusting so I should shut up, and then it all goes downhill after that. Next year I graduate and I can’t even talk to people. I wanna go to college and go out and hook up etc, but how can I do that when I look ugly and apparently a majority of guys find my complexion ugly? And I’ve heard the “you will find the right guy, and the right group of friends” but here we are. It sucks

Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
Do not listen to that negative voice in your head! Choose Love over fear in every situation and hold your head high knowing you are no different then anyone else. We are all the same under these suits we call our bodies.

I can tell you what attracts decent boys to girls.... It's how you look upon your self. If you take care of yourself and accept yourself by loving yourself....then you project that onto others and you become like a magnet to other people. Everyone wants to be around others who are happy in their own skin. .

Many people blame the world for their problems but when we change how we look at the world then we begin to see things differently so my advice is to focus on your qualities and accept your perceived deficits, Love yourself for who you are and be happy with the knowledge that you know who you are and you are carving a magnificent path for yourself in the future!

God Bless
kaiaaa
kaiaaa
I appreciate it. And the thing is I know it’s my attitude that holds my social life back. But it’s hard to walk up to someone when my mind is screaming that I’m horrendous looking, and should just shut up because nobody cares. And I don’t think I’m attractive at all, and I feel like that’s the one thing that’s not a result of my problem because I feel like I can see that I am in ugly. But an argument could be made that I view myself like that because of my problems. But at this point I’ve accepted ugly as my label and I’m so far into it that I can’t even imagine my life without having my “ugly label”. It’s kinda sad
Beckell
Beckell
I hear you! Thank you for sharing your struggle. You are not alone. Everyone has their own struggle. No one is perfect. Having a positive attitude and good self-esteem is important. Past is past. Focus the positives about yourself such as your skills at something. If certain people make you feel bad about yourself, try to avoid them. Build on relationships with people that make you feel good about yourself. Try not to get too hard on yourself. Be kind to yourself. I have my own disability and people called me names. What I do is I let it bound and not to get too personal. I have my faith in God and knowing that He loves me. The problem with the world is that they judge others based on their looks. It’s very wrong when they do that.
I’m here for you and willing to talk more. You are in my prayer.
LindsayAlone
LindsayAlone
Confidence is key. No matter the skin tone. I was kind of a loner in high school and felt “ugly.” I always wish I could go back in time and realize I was believing what others made me feel I had to believe. There’s more cruel negative ppl than there are good ones.
You will meet nice guys..& some not so nice guys. Set high standards for yourself. You deserve to be treated wonderfully. Nothing less. Hold your head up, beautiful. High school is almost over, & it’s a whole different world waiting for you after graduation! <3
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