Yeah Donna,
I know just what you mean. I'm single several years , and I only have my elderly Mom but all she does is watch tv marathons of NCIS,so I prefer to stay at my own place. Unfortunately thats it for me,most of my relatives live in New Orleans. I live in Washington State not the friendliest really. I have to tell you I feel you on the stories of where people are spending their holidays, it really gets on my nerves.

Its awfully tough too. I know that its tough to meet anyone friends,anyone because its real clicque-ish.
I lost my Father a few years ago too. I have siblings but all we all have different mothers and none of them bother to keep in touch due to their own dysfunction so I guess that could be considered a blessing in disguise? I don't know.
Keep your head up.
I might be available for an online chat over the holidays if I'm not spending the day in bed.
Keep the faith
Ok?

Yes, it makes me wince. It's painful being alone, and the holidays shine a glaring spotlight on that fact. It's a torture I can't wait to be over with.

I am single. My dad and stepmom are leaving for FLA this week, so they'll be gone, my mom and her stupid husband are here but all they do is make me more miserable....I hear you both. It sucks. I know that I have Jesus though and so do you gals!! So we're not truly alone even though it may seem that way!!!!! Sending hugs your way!!

Yes...I will be spending the holidays alone. I will go visit my mom for a bit but there are very few words spoken. I can watch tv at my house if that is the case. I am invisible to her as well as the rest of the world.

Last night I saw a friend at the gym. I realized that all the conversation and e mails revolve around her..and I have to hear every detail about her story. In an e mail she sent..she did the have a happy thanksgiving statement. So not going into too much details I told her I was depressed about being alone. Cheer up was her answer. Last night she asked again and I told her the same thing. I guess she couldn't think of anything to say so she walked away. Now I know I am very wrong for thinking this way...but I know she comes from a large family and her mom is cooking. Is it too much to say let me ask my mom if u can join us?

Sorry that you will be alone.

Hey a thought maybe help in a homeless shelter, help serve dinner to others that don't have a home or a way to cook...

LR

It's the same with me. The only difference is I don't have a need or even want to be around people during this time. Everyone is all upbeat and seems to happy. I'm not so I just as soon not be with people. Any way I guess that's the way I feel this year.

in memphis there seem to be more bird day volunteers than participants, I wonder is it the charity of us southerners, or so many lonely folks trying to escape the pain? sobering thought.Suggest all you guys stay connected with ds thru these painful holidays...i wonder what my Jesus thinks of MY STUPID RELATIVES...HAHAHAH

Though of you who have relatives, this is your time to appreciate them, trust me- one day they will be gone and it will be too late. I lost my mom to cancer in 2008 and I have been remembering when I had to help her lift the turkey in and out of the oven. I wish she was with me.

I am garanteed to not only be alone but also without the basics like a meal while greed and glutton take over those with money.

i will be alone.. at first i was freakin out, now i am embracing it a bit.. i may go play guitar for a while. but otherwise... hmmmm

ok.. the benefits of being alone at the holiday

you can nap anytime
you can not eat turkey
you dont have to pretent to be happy to see someone
or recap your life
you dont have to celibrate the holiday that allowed us to take the indians food and land
you dont have to do dishes
you can watch anything on tv
eat naked
go for a long long walk
you can nap.. did i say that already
you can write a great blog, book or poem
you can sit and listen to the world, as it slows
you can stop and notice your love of friends and relatives
you can do all of this on a pb&j sandwich with milk ... and not have to worry about calories
you can save a turkey
you can wear your kansas t shirt to dinner
you can skateboard, the streets are empty
you can cry if you want .. loudly, no one will hear
you can masterbate
a lot... wahooo...
you can love the earth , sky, sun, moon.. they are your true family
you can love.. spend the day loving YOU

I won't be alone, but I do not have a close or large family, so it's hard hearing the stories of all the large gatherings. I've always wanted to have my own gathering, and invite people without families over. Actually, I would even invite people to my parents if they were not so antisocial. I did get invited to a couple friend's gatherings, which was nice, and I definitely can't understand your friend not inviting you - sounds very selfish. It would be the first thing I would do if I heard someone was alone, and I had the option to do so. Do you know anyone else that is alone? Maybe you could make your own gathering of people that don't have anywhere to go - they are more common than you would think, many of them just don't say anything.

Im breaking up with my partner to live in a new house,so Christmas Day will be with friends and Boxing Day I have my son for part of it
I havnt lived alone before and Im feeling scared

well this year fortunate for me i will be with my boyfriends family but the pat 9 years before this every year i was in a foster home and thats no better than being alone. so i understand your pain. i despise holidays. itll be a miracle if i get through these forsaken months. so maybe since u have a condition u can hae friends come over.. i hope something works out for you.

I am going to be alone too. I look at it this way. Yeah, it would be nice to spend with a loving family. But you can create your own reality. I am going to spend mine making a nice meal, renting movies, hanging out at home and doing things I love. We are cold here in the midwest anyway so travel isn't fun this time of year. I also look forward to creating new traditions some day with my future family. Just because we are alone doesn't mean it has to be a negative thing! Blessings to all!

I was invited yesterday to a friend in my building for dinner, as she will be on her own, also. We'll watch one of my movies and hang out...then I plan on heading back to my room to zone out with Jean-Luc Picard. I'll probably watch a movie or two I haven't seen or one that's been so long since I've watched it that it's like the first time.
I actually got some good sleep last night, so plan on continuing to veg out today. (Gonna put on "The Ten Commandments" in a minute. Love that Yul Brennar!)
I am thankful that I don't have to spend Thanksgiving on the street (have been homeless for 14 months), so I know that I have many, many things to be thankful for and could care less--okay, I care a little, lol--that I don't have family to spend the day with.