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am i wrong for feeling this way

a141994
a141994
so there's this girl i'vebeen courting from my school for about a week plus now, and today she dropped some news on me! okay so to sum it up this is what she said 1. she had a one night stand with a dude, not only that but it happened less than a month ago, and not only that but the guy still texts her asking to hook up again and...and not only that, she's been texting back and forth with the guy all day, even when we were on the train together, she says she doesn't want to be rude by not replying, she says she's just trying to let him know that she's not down with it ;/

am i wrong for feeling some type of way about that? should i be more understanding i mean we're both grown right? and one night stands happen right?
chris1976
chris1976
I guess that depends on what "some type of way" means. It's certainly not pleasant to know that a girl you like is still communicating with a person she had a fling with. HOWEVER (a) you are just courting her, (b) you're just courting her for a week only, that's not a long time at all (c) chances are that the older you get, the less of a chance you'll have of getting a woman who's a virgin. That's the reality.

If what you feel is jealousy, then cut it out. It's not your place to feel jealous about a girls that you just met a week ago and isn't even your girlfriend. Acting up negatively will scare the hell out of her, reducing the chance of getting to know her better.

Let it go, if she's the girl for you, she will be regardless of the anxiety that information may create for you. Relax, enjoy her company, and more important, make sure that she enjoys your. The last thing any girl wants is hanging out with a guy who becomes a jerk the second she discloses something about her that you don't like.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Are you two in an exclusive relationship? Have you had that conversation yet? If not, why is she even telling you about this one night stand? If so, then it's probably best to get out now.

She's either trying to make you jealous by telling you about this other guy, or she has trouble committing to one person and wants you to be ok with that. Even people who have not yet hit that exclusive point in their relationships don't go around telling each other about their hookups.

I would definitely feel some type of way about this situation. The mature, grown up thing would have been for her to keep it too herself or keep it in her pants.