Hi

I do not know if you remember, me telling you I quit drinking 24 years ago right before my nephew was born. So I can tell you a few things about drinking and you can go from there.

First off drinking make you more depress and lonely. As for as drinking to go to sleep it does work for a while. However the down side of that is you will have to start drinking more & more to fall asleep. After a while you will be drinking so much you will not be able to sleep because you will be in the bathroom all the time sick.

Then comes blackout, you will do things you will not remember doing. If someone was to tell you what you did, it would be hard for you to believe it, an you may even be ashame about what you did.

Then there the drinking and driving part. I was lucky because I got stop and went to jail. My car insurance triple. Taking you picture and getting finger printed is not fun.

The reason I say I was lucky, even though I did not realize it at the time, was because I could have killed myself or worst. I could have killed a car full of people. I could not live with myself if I would kill someone from drinking and driving. Little kids,moms, dads,brothers,sister and ect. I would ruin a family life over being a jerk.

Another reason drinking is not good for you. You alway know you have live damange. I really feel like drinking is a slow way for you to kill your self, because you mention that evey time you post. That is just my opion though.

Also if you decide to keep drinking, let me know if you still feel lonely. I know the answer to that. However do some soul searching on your on and see how it really makes you feel.

Hope this help some and good luck.

I am a recovering alcoholic myself too...and as was mentioned you could kill other people drinking and driving before ever getting caught...I never got caught...I am lucky I never killed anyone....drinking and driving even just one beer impairs you ability to make swift decisions...I now teach driving...I never want anyone to be behind the wheel after a drink or more drunk....

Also the damages that you do now may seem minor but alcoholism (which I know I have) is a progressive disease...it only gets worse...the first person who wrote here described some of things that happen to drinkers who have issues...

if you have to ask if alcohol is a problem in your life then it must be or why would you ask? I think some people enjoy drinking without becoming alcoholic....and then the few that really over do it usually have issues around using alcohol...

As for dating and seeing friends who have gotten laid more than you think they should...remember Aids? those damn STD's are out there looking to be spread between people who share intimacy without concern for themselves or those they are with....and I think you sharing that you want more than a one night stand is commendable...and right action like that statement says alot about what will happen in your young future....you are so lucky to have a place like this to talk with others who will support good and kick your ass for bad....I guess I am saying keep on with the good and get rid of alcohol from daily living and also stop these depressed thinkings of ending your life! Damn that alone requires me to kick your ass...LOL But with a lot of love for those others in your life who would be hurt I am kicking your ass...(seriously)

hugs bill

So....what should i do then i mean there really is not much else for me to do for fun anymore, i am working on my future but its going really slow and well i am lonely while everyone else has already found their soul mates at my age and are getting ready for marriage, the sex part is the worst, i am just wasting my youth i guess on my career that no woman will respect in the future, but i don't care anymore, im just going with the flow, people have a lot of regrets in life im just going down a path where i wont have as many, and that kind of sucks for me, cause i really feel like i am missing out on the GOOD things in life, and i dont really mind dieing alone as long as i get my goals set before i do then its all good for me to end my life, why bother watching other have fun when i seem to be incapable of doing so too. Plus the STDs part doesn't make sense, how come my friends dont have any of these diseases after all their contact, tell me that.

I think you need professional help to deal with suicidal ideations...go go see a shrink or a counselor and be honest about these desires and find out where you are next....in hospital with no shoelaces and no belt...behind a locked door with others who happen to be at risk of killing themselves...that is a sad place to be at your age but I been there to both the hospital and the place where your head is...you need professional help

It works sometimes, but other times it really makes it worse. I've decided for myself that I am going to try to quit it completely. It can get out of hand. The crutch can become a brace. I would try to have a better coping mechanism.

short answer NO.

Alcohol is a good servant but a terrible master. Drink alcohol in moderation only (e.g. 1 or 2 glasses a night, at most). If you drink to excess to dampen the depression & loneliness you will soon find the depression (& loneliness) becoming much worse.

no u shouldn't use alc. in my opinion then u will have a more severe problem to deal with in the future .Say u meet the right girl next week ,well will u give up the alcohol ?I think u know where I am going with this ,instead why not join a gym and u can work all thAT negative energy out while at the same time be in company and meet people also you will feel better in every way...