Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Accepting Loneliness

depressedbutwelldressed
depressedbutwelldressed

Why is it that when it gets dark and cold outside that slippery feeling seeps into my bones and reminds me of how alone I am? Sometimes it's just the way the streetlights hit the pavement on my drive home, the way the headlights of all the other cars bounce off of me like I'm just a reflection. It makes me feel heavier somehow, like I'm moving through quick sand. I know that I am strong. I tell myself that I am brave, and I know that I am, but it is hard to be brave and strong as I learn to accept that I don't really belong anywhere. I don't say that because I'm looking for pity or for someone to refute it, I say it because its the truth and the truth is the scariest thing. I don't belong anywhere, I don't belong to anyone, I am alone, and I don't know how to let that settle. In the morning when the sun rises and the air is crisp and my coffee is brewing the aloneness might not feel so lonely, but I know its just a matter of time before the dark and the cold come back, and here I'll be again. So how does one accept the loneliness and sit with it? How does one, knowing that their faults prevent the filling of the emptiness, make a life out of that? 

Toughassteele
Toughassteele
Here for you I'm dealing with being alone and I'm have a rough time with it. I just try and think if some things positive to get me through. Here to chat if you want. Hugs
tonisora
tonisora
this is something I have been thinking about a lot recently. I am actually pushing myself to be more on my own. currently living with someone and as much as i love him, I need to be on my one completely for a while. that being said, how does one doe that without collapsing. I recently listened to an article...
https://www.stuffmomnevertoldyou.com/podcasts/making-friends-with-loneliness.htm

I will probably listen to it a few more times, to internalize it.

tools like that. and having friends that i can talk to thru out the day, including the support on here.
thislar
thislar
Hello your post spoke to me enough to cause me to 'join' this site. Your descriptions are visceral and the part i saw that few people ever mention is the 'not belonging' anywhere or to anyone.
That is like the core of my existence and it is tough.
depressedbutwelldressed
depressedbutwelldressed
I agree with you. A lot of people tend to associate that sense of belonging with having friends or with being surrounded by people, but what few fail to realize is that the most devastating kind of lonileness is being surrounded by others and still feeling like you dont belong.
jarod_weaver19
jarod_weaver19
Know the difference between being alone, and being lonely. Beauty is found in diversity. In being unique. There is no reason you should feel like you need to "belong" anywhere. I'm 18 years old and pulled myself out of depression completely alone. I have always kept my circle small. Everyone I have EVER cared about has shot me down. But I used it all as motivation, not as a roadblock. in the years since, I finished in the top 10 at a Harvard University speaking program, traveled the world helping others and have NEVER been more proud of myself. I did it all completely alone. I learned to embrace my uniqueness and use it as a ADVANTAGE not a DISADVANTAGE.
pooh726
pooh726
I am in the beginning of my journey and I don't understand all the emotions and feelings . The desperate cry myself to sleep for the past 26 days . I am on night 27 today and I still don't sleep more than 2 hours a night
pooh726
pooh726
I know the feeling, when the sun goes down my heart takes it as a sign to begin the desperation. I have had some good days where I don't end up crying myself to sleep. Today is NOT one of those days.. so here I am reading others post and trying to offer words of encouragement , in an effort to feel like the only person on the planet
urhere
urhere
That's a really good question, how does one accept the loneliness? I welcome the loneliness from time to time and other times the loneliness comes and stripe me to the bone. Sometimes loneliness can make a person brave, bright and beautiful. Other times, loneliness can make a mockery of a person, alienate and desolate its existence.


No, it's just no you because I feel it too.
baybdots
baybdots
I wish I can answer the questions but I feel the same way everyday I hate to get out of bed. I do suffer from SAD I take my vitamin Ds and Bs it does help. Try to go take a walk. sometimes that helps me feel better (I Hate when people say that to me lol)
Ava142
Ava142
I empathise with the unnerving feeling of not belonging. I just wonder if everyone feels this way on some varying levels or whether some individuals stand out from the crowd more than others ; which is obviously a strange thing because being misrepresented can cause its own problems too; not just being isolated or not belonging in someone's company. I believe those things can be co-morbid or bleed into each other, and even having a different opinion or a different outlook to the mainstream can cut you off from others. There's an epidemic going on with all of us; we don't feel good enough. That's what it boils down to. We need to keep our self regard intact in an often messy life and I'm learning to do that myself. I don't know what you have gone through in life but all I can say is embracing the unknown is a lifetime occupation. There's no one answer but we need to find the one that gives meaning to our lives. You are braver than you think and the world is waiting for you to help others too and find out you're only trying your best like we all are. Take care