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a pauper's grave...next of kin?

penntucky
penntucky
usual small article in yesterday's local paper, of authorties looking for next of kin for somebody who died of natural causes, at around age 51.

my hometown paper days ago of somebody i knew in early '80s, dead at 49...? around age 50 is the life expectancy of # people i knew decades ago.

besides my cats, the things that keep me going is that i don't want to be a newspaper article of police looking for next of kin, or to be thrown in mass pauper's grave with a dozen others down on their luck (also don't want to be buried next to my lowlife parents).

Morbid nonsense, perhaps, but does keep me going, despite no friends or money or upbeat future.

Anybody actually have plans for when the permanent bad news happens to them?
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's not a mass paupers grave. Each person is buried individually in case a relative or other person comes along years later and wants to have them exhumed and buried in another cemetary or masoleum.
penntucky
penntucky
maybe it was on the nyc news years ago, showing a big mass pauper's grave; maybe it depends on the city/circumstances.

not that its details i want to debate...:)
billwfriend
billwfriend
I actually have my plans made...I wanna be cremated and then put into a bench monument that will go into the family cemetary that my grandfather grandmother from my mom are in...I wanna be near the entrance to the cemetary...so people coming in to see family can sit down on my bench and look over the entire site...it is small cemetary and out in field along a road from the AA big book number 449 which is the page that tells us that whatever is wrong in this world is of our own making....Acceptance is the key!
heretic
heretic
For me it will be good news, not bad. And I couldn't care less what happens to my body when I'm done with it. I'll most likely be found by my landlord when the rent isn't paid and the body taken care of by the city which is just fine by me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My Mom left her body to medical research and education. The science center sent me a letter that in doing so my Mom participated in programs on new types of breast biopsy instruments, cranial-facial trauma repair and reconstruction (mom had been in an auto accident and had facial damage that the E.R. repaired very poorly) and so much more.

Then there is no costs at all to anyone.

I want to donate my body the same way and hopefully it will be of use in training using new equipment or surgical techniques for those people living after me. And no one will pay anything.
P00hbear
P00hbear
We haven't made plans yet. We did not have kids, and I worry that there will be no one to carry out the plans even if we did make them.
billwfriend
billwfriend
pooh do you have sisters or brothers? they prob would do what was written out but in times of grief one never thinks right....hugs bill
P00hbear
P00hbear
Hi Billw, I do not. It is just me. The family is far too small, assuming I live to an older age I doubt anyone will be left to carry out my wishes, unless my husband outlives me - but then he would be in the same situation. It's hard to think about. I will get something planned, and believe God will have people in place in my life, meanwhile just try to take it one day at a time.
billwfriend
billwfriend
that is why they have prepaid burial plans but be careful cause those can be major rip offs too....hugs and it is not something that most think of on daily basis...but I wanted my family to know my desires....so I told them...it is not in my plans to die soon but I have plan on death someday! LOL
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