Write your fears down in a journal and look at that fear and why is it a fear? Then you figure out a way to get rid of it and you can do it. You will find that you will start to feel better about yourself and that is number one is to Love YOU!!!! Lisa

Don't be so swift in accepting your therapist's opinion as some sort of "nature-given fact". I can relate to you, actually. In terms of being lonely, having little in common with others, yes. I have very few things in common with other people I meet, and at this point, let's face it, it's difficult, downright nearly impossible for me to forge any kind of significant relationship with someone who has so little in common with me. This is not the most cheerful realisation to come to, but I believe it to be a fact now. I suppose it's not so different to you accepting that you are a "loner". However, like someone else said in another post, he said we are social beings, and thus, we crave human interaction. I don't think being alone all the time is truly conducive to emotional / psychological health, or happiness. Keep trying to meet people, put yourself out there. I am probably not telling you anything which you haven't already thought of, or done.

I just looked at your profile, Mr. Pagan. It's blank. Why not share with us some of your interests? Who knows? You might find someone who does have some things in common with you. For instance, I too live in NC. In any case, I hope life gets easier for you, and hopefully you'll run into many relatable individuals here and in your physical life. Good luck.

Thanks for the response guys. DemonPerchance - the only reason I believe my therapist is because the cold hard facts are staring me right in the face. You are right, I need to put myself out there more. Thats always been hard to do. Anyway, good advice. Thanks

welcome to the group....I do not know what to say except that we are here to sound ideas out with us...without judgement or rejection....those fears are real and do drive many men and women into isolation...fear of rejection keeps more people from dating than you can think of other things keeping them from dating...

The labelling that begins as soon as we're born, and that we hear over and over - the positive stuff gives the favored kid great confidence. The one that's put down and criticized over and over
begins to think there must be something wrong with them. Then,
when we grow up and observe the dysfunction from a distance, some
of us decide not to accept the opinions of people who were too busy forming other people's opinions of us to see who we really are.

Absolutely everyone has fears of being rejected and disappointed.
A quote on Pinterest went something like, 'I used to walk into a room
and wonder how many of these people might like me. Now I walk into a room and wonder how many of the people I might like." I may have messed that up, but I meant well :)

Give yourself a chance, whether anyone else bothers to or not. All
you can do is try. But, think of the rejection that salespeople go through -- because it's tied to earning a living, they aren't phased. It's
start again the next day.

Wishing you good luck and plenty of confidence.

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