Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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karanhere 05/14/2009

Hi to all of you guys.
I have been feeling pretty average these days.Maybe bcoz i am confused about something i would like to share.
I don't have may friends.Those i have cannot be termed as good freinds.I have tried to be caring,good,helpful and all that stuff but nothing works.
I guess i am not that interesting.I try to be funny with them to get that attention.But sometimes i don't feel like making jokes and stuff.On these days i don't find anyone around me.
Do i always have to act like a joker so that i can make myself interesting for my friends?
Can't i be silent for sometime?
Can anyone relate?

MelbaToast 05/14/2009

Hi there - I can relate - A LOT! I try to be witty and sometimes it works but sometimes my jokes fall flat and then I feel even more like a loser :(

I'm having a lot of trouble making friends. I just don't know how to meet people. I created a profile on OK Cupid that was like a joint profile for my bf and I, just looking for cool people, but nobody's contacted us yet. I'm here looking for friends too but haven't met anyone I've really connected with beyond an "I'm with you!" here and there. Those are nice but I want more.

deleted_user 05/14/2009

I'm no good at making friends either. :(

deleted_user 05/14/2009

I get you, well as you have said you have tried different, dont sell yourself down. What I did one year was, to go for the "talk to loads of people and the likelihood you will get on with someone" I am very much like you but once I just looked at people on my course and just tried to talk to, you will I bet someone you get on with. Dont sell yourself down, maybe one thing you need is look around your classes or when your in school and look for people who sit alone or dont have many friends just approach them.

Just go for it, dont change who you are to find friends, just go for this, im very similar to you but i found great friends, unfortunately life circmstances meant I lost them but nothing bad happened. just go for it, trust me it works.

deleted_user 05/15/2009

the quiet person is always thought of in negative light. i think that it's because people do not know what they're thinking, and have to fill in the blanks with their own ego. also, people do not seem to be okay with silence these days.

my belief is that the quiet people are often times more interesting, and not just for the challenge of prying them open.

melba: i think that people go to cupid primarily for romantic connections, so it might be harder to make some acquaintances there.

MelbaToast 05/15/2009

True! I learned that the hard way after getting some messages from guys hitting on me. I was basically like "Er, I think I made it abundantly clear in my profile that A. I have a boyfriend and B. WE are looking for friends only" what a joke :D I should really just take that profile down.

deleted_user 05/15/2009

saying that you have a boyfriend on that site just means that the swingers and polys target you instead.

deleted_user 05/15/2009

I think shaz and melba have the right idea. Sometimes friends can be good friends, but they aren't the type of people you "click" with and you need to find that elsewhere.

I suggest getting involved in activities that revolve around your interests and attract people like you (at least in some ways). Have you tried joining any social groups are taking fun classes?

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