Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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rainBowsLoveMe
rainBowsLoveMe
I think i've realized that i actually am lonely. I have friends, people I hang out with at school, but no one to go to the movies with; hang out with on the weekends; no one to splurge my feelings to, etc. I have one or two people I call my "best friends", but it's such an empty word. I feel like such an empty person. I sometimes wonder, alot actually, even though it probably more than likely might not make a difference, if that I moved to a different place and had different friends then I might actually have a social life. My online friends put that thought into my head. I get along so well with them. It's like if I moved to "so-and-so" then i'd be set for the rest of my school years. It's makes me want to move away from home even more. To just be ready to go to college already. I wonder if i've just been put in the wrong enviroment. Maybe it's just me? I don't know.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Take it from someone who went through this for many, many, many years. The change must start from WITHIN you. You have to find ways to deal with/fulfill that emptiness inside you. Other people cannot do it for you.

How do you do it? That's a good question. Some turn to spirituality, others turn to serving others (volunteering, counseling, etc.)

Also remember that to have friends you must often need to make the first move. Sure, it's risky and will make you feel vulnerable. Sometimes you have success, sometimes you don't. But the important thing is to not let the failures stop you!

Try inviting the friends you only see at school to the movies, to your house, etc. Or if that is not possible, join some sort of club or organization where you'll meet and hang out with people your age on the weekends.

Wish you the best of luck. :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
you get along with your online friends precisely BECAUSE they are online friends. people are people wherver you go, and wherever you go, there YOU ARE...
rainBowsLoveMe
rainBowsLoveMe
Trust me I do. I do a shit load of extra-curricular activities and it fills the void. Gets me talking to other people. Trying to break the hold that shyness has on me, but the people that I go to school with aren't fulfilling. I don't know. Maybe i'm being to picky. Judgemental. I don't feel like they click with me on the same level. Some of my friends do, but I just don't hang out with them like I use to. I don't know. I've been through alot and maybe i've just excluded myself from everyone. I live in a really small town where everyone knows everyone. So it's hard to make new friends you know?
deleted_user
deleted_user
feel ya girl, one of MY probs when younger was if people didnt feel same as me they were beneath me, I was very critical, if you can learn to respect people who dont see eye to eye with you, you will get their respect as well, and ps, ask leading questions, most folks like talking bout themselves to someone who appears interested. I graded people instead of learning who they were, why they thought like they did, i bet u know what im talkin about, take care!
rainBowsLoveMe
rainBowsLoveMe
Well i'm a person who loves to argue. lol and as long as you don't do anything to fuck me over and overly piss me off to much you already have the little respect that you should already have from another person. I try not to judge a person right off the bat and not dislike someone. Although everyone kinda has those 1-2 people that are just annoying to them. I just kinda tend to keep to myself. One of those quiet people though only kinda half now cause i've gotten better at talking to people randomly, to people i don't know/don't know that well, to people i've gone to school forever! with, but just never felt comfortable around. But i don't know. I just don't like the enviroment i'm in. I just wanna go to college already, out of state, and start all over again.