Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
hi all!
it's my first post in this support group.
Unlike most posts here, during Christmas time i
am with my family... however, i mostly alone. i am not happy
i do not know whether this is really due to the repressed emotions i have over the years growing in a dysfunctional family - one where the parents are spoiled, where the children are the responsible ones. and a family that does not talk about deep emotional issues to the core.. where everybody shows love and affection towards each other through sarcasm, negativity, worry and dry jokes. is this your type of family too?
I feel so repressed, suppressed and oppressed... i know that my family my not be doing this on purpose, but it is probably because they also grew up
in such an environment, and they only got used to it. Nevertheless
things need to change.
I don't know if that is causing my sadness.... it may also be because i feel lonely and since its the holidays i have more time to think about my ex who is a recovering addict who is mysterious than ever. he never fails to make his presence felt during special occasions. but on a regular day, he is nowhere... non-existent. I don't understand why he keeps on sending me sms 3 times a year on special occasions. and i can't resist to give him the attention.. Though i have really tried...
during this season, esp this year i feel so alone more than ever. My friends have their own lives. I have a discipler friend who i go to bible study with, yet she ignores my messages to her (even if it's very seldom i do that...) and i when i do we usually talk about my feelings and how down i feel.. how i miss my ex.. how i wish things were better.. how im confused i am about what to do with my ex.. to keep waiting or to finally let go... its been almost 2 yrs and i still cnt get over my ex, also because he is not helping sending me those sms... and flowers on my bday and valentines... how confusing right?!! anyway.. im not sure if my discipler is deliberately ignoring me... maybe thats how she sets boundaries... but its sad that i cannot depend on a friend. cant friends be patient enough... i really dont know.. eventually it may do me gpod, but its sad that i always end up being on my own. In the first play, i look for a friend because i can hold and bottle it up any longer...is what my discipler doing acceptable? normal? or should i rethink my friendship with her?
It's alsways a balance of accepting things ... and rejecting what you cannot accept....
i am never satisfied with the friendships i have.. they are almost always fleeting....
or is it me? :(
Why is God allowing me to be alone.. Iv been alone for the longest time. im tired being alone.
My family is here, available, but they can be overdependent too... why cant we be so attached and fully invest in life..? it's so hard to stay straight in this life. while the mindless and careless get to enjoy.
Feeling really sad, stuck and alone this holiday season.
thanks for reading.
it's my first post in this support group.
Unlike most posts here, during Christmas time i
am with my family... however, i mostly alone. i am not happy
i do not know whether this is really due to the repressed emotions i have over the years growing in a dysfunctional family - one where the parents are spoiled, where the children are the responsible ones. and a family that does not talk about deep emotional issues to the core.. where everybody shows love and affection towards each other through sarcasm, negativity, worry and dry jokes. is this your type of family too?
I feel so repressed, suppressed and oppressed... i know that my family my not be doing this on purpose, but it is probably because they also grew up
in such an environment, and they only got used to it. Nevertheless
things need to change.
I don't know if that is causing my sadness.... it may also be because i feel lonely and since its the holidays i have more time to think about my ex who is a recovering addict who is mysterious than ever. he never fails to make his presence felt during special occasions. but on a regular day, he is nowhere... non-existent. I don't understand why he keeps on sending me sms 3 times a year on special occasions. and i can't resist to give him the attention.. Though i have really tried...
during this season, esp this year i feel so alone more than ever. My friends have their own lives. I have a discipler friend who i go to bible study with, yet she ignores my messages to her (even if it's very seldom i do that...) and i when i do we usually talk about my feelings and how down i feel.. how i miss my ex.. how i wish things were better.. how im confused i am about what to do with my ex.. to keep waiting or to finally let go... its been almost 2 yrs and i still cnt get over my ex, also because he is not helping sending me those sms... and flowers on my bday and valentines... how confusing right?!! anyway.. im not sure if my discipler is deliberately ignoring me... maybe thats how she sets boundaries... but its sad that i cannot depend on a friend. cant friends be patient enough... i really dont know.. eventually it may do me gpod, but its sad that i always end up being on my own. In the first play, i look for a friend because i can hold and bottle it up any longer...is what my discipler doing acceptable? normal? or should i rethink my friendship with her?
It's alsways a balance of accepting things ... and rejecting what you cannot accept....
i am never satisfied with the friendships i have.. they are almost always fleeting....
or is it me? :(
Why is God allowing me to be alone.. Iv been alone for the longest time. im tired being alone.
My family is here, available, but they can be overdependent too... why cant we be so attached and fully invest in life..? it's so hard to stay straight in this life. while the mindless and careless get to enjoy.
Feeling really sad, stuck and alone this holiday season.
thanks for reading.
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My AA sponsor is much less accessable since her retired from banking job! He does not answer phone much but its also hard to get returned calls from VM! He communicates minimally with me thru texts! I dont mind texts but hes one shot pony for more texts than others! Never gotten him into text conversation!
I dont call as much as I used to when he had telephone contact with me from his bank. Im looking for new sponsor and just be friends with him now! Hes really not leading me thru the steps of AA anyway so I need something more structuref w sponsorship!
My example here unfortunately has hijacked your beautiful first posting of a thread!
Its meant to say people struggle with exactly same kinds of issues you find yourself struggling with!
I have family too mom and sisters but no wife kids! I also have ex but ours was marriage and she contacts me still! Ive never moved on from her! I dont love her but I havent found someone else that might keep me special! She just thinks of me and texts me infrequently out of blue about something stupid like old tv show she just watched or something similar!
We both struggle with letting go! I need to move on and so do you! You sound attached to him even though he is using drugs! Nope thats bad enough to keep on walking when these random kindnesses are done! Drug addicts and alcoholics know manipulating skills to max! Lies cheating stealing add in using drugs or drinking they are efforts wasted for relationship unless they stop using you and drug of course!
Hope this has been useful little long but hey its your first reply to your first post!
Sounds like your boyfriend is trying to keep you on a string in case he ever needs a backup. Sorry but this seems to be classic narcissistic behaviour. For help, insight and support on going no contact with him the victims of narcissists threads on here can be really helpful.
I hope your new year is full of love and opportunities.
As for your ex, it is time to let go. He only contacts you on certain occasions. It seems like he is only interested in honoring those occasions and not getting back together with you. I would tell him to leave you alone so you can get over him easier.