There anything you want to know? I am 31, Male. I have a wife, and 1 kid (son, 3 year old)

I do not have a psychiatrist, or a Counselor.
I don't like to tell people, because I feel I would be a bother to people, or maybe I am to proud. I don't know. Maybe both, because I don't like looking weak to my family. I love my family, I love being around them, but I still feel lonely like something is missing.

there are others who also are in similar situations as you mordici....having families and feeling lonely...that is not this for me....I have no kids and no wife....but then my loneliness is here too...hope that help is here for you keep writing here....hugs

I have a husband and three kids. when we are all together I'm fine but when their at work or school or even just not near me I feel lonely. Having a family does not take the loneliness away. Sometimes it makes it worse because when you aren't with your family you hurt even more

@billwfriend -> That doesn't really help. Makes me feel like a whiner cause I do have a family, and being selfish and feeling lonely. Feel a bit selfish, I shouldn't feel lonely with a family.. Infact I am really happy with them, but I still am lonely and I am lonely even when they are around.

@Angeleyes92 -> This is true, but I figured out another part of my problem was the lack of interaction with fellow adults.. Being I am a stay at home Dad, I take my son out to the playground and the stay at home moms tend to watch me like a hawk and yet stay away from me. I'm afraid that they are thinking or pondering that I am a bad person wanting to hurt their kids when out on the playground, while I watch mine play, It's hard feeling lone an outsider. Though, I do understand - and I don't expect them to come up to me and talk, but I feel like my being there is somehow effecting my son in a negative way, being when my wife takes him to the playground he gets invited to play-dates.

I can't imagine anyone with a three year old having the time to feel lonely.

@lowtidebeach Adult interaction is much different then interaction with your child.

I have no husband, no kids, no pets so I am lonely. Recently out of a bad relationship. Glad about that but hate the loneliness that goes along with it. Either way I lose. I always lose.

There are people that can be in a room full of people and feel lonely. There are many different dimensions to feeling alone.

We are all here for each other and are here to help.
Hugs to you

First of all, please don't feel like you are a bother, EVER!! That is what a support group is about, to offer advice, and most of all, give you as much support as you need. and being proud has to go! it's okay to need help and support, male or female. I can understand your fear of seeing a Therapist but maybe after you have been here for awhile, you will begin to feel more comfortable about finding a Therapist to talk to. I know you will get a lot of help here, the people are wonderful!! A very big warm welcome to the group. Hugs Gramybear

Being proud is an easy thing to do, I was taught at an early age that showing emotions was showing weakness and should be avoided. It took years to get out of this, however I still have some things to get through. The "man" of the house is suppose to be the rock and there to hold everything together. I try to be a rock, but even as a rock I do got a sandy foundation at times. I am good at not showing when things bother me. I don't know what I would say even to a therapist, being I am not good at talking about my emotions to people I don't know. Though, I am trying rather hard to do so here.

I usta' have it bad; that was in a period when my job was meaningless.

Long has art had cases like yours Mordici. Kafka? In th' post-WW II era, the Existence Philosophy movement could spell it out as not before:

Loneliness of the soul - when everything else is okay or even good.

Hermann Hesse I discovered in the , and have enjoyed his things. Reading *about* him, even, can be helpful to those who inwardly need something and don't quite know what it is.

(Just looked up _Steppenwolf_ and see indeed it was made into a film. The fact Max von Sydow was put in the leading role makes me think the film has true content.)

welcome to a good place,
Caleb

Today has been a good day so far. Spent time with my wife, kid, and my mom - spent the day at the apartment swimming pool with them.. that was a good time and a good way to get my mind off things.

Anyway, I do have a bit of an art background - being I do have an associates degree in graphic design - I love photography and the kind of that. My mind goes more to the science side of things, so art is a bit of a struggle at times - though I have learned to be able to think with both sides of my brain.

I know how you're feeling somewhat, I don't have a wife or kids but I do have this deep feeling of loneliness. I do want my own family, but I do not have much luck as far as women goes. I'm pretty awkward and depressed and that doesn't work well when trying to meet people it seems. I know how it feels though to be feeling lonely even when you're around someone else, that would happen when I was with my ex or with my friends sometimes. It's really all in the head, unfortunately we have to live with our minds and try to adapt to our thought process as hard as it might be. If you really need someone to talk to feel free to send me a message.