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Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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maureen53
maureen53
Well in a couple of days I will go in for more surgery on my left kidney. I'm really not scared right now just hurt. My sister and I have not talked in about two years although I think my aunt tells her everything. She is a very selfish person along with my brother. I tried so many times to get togeather with them just to get hurt again by them. Her son is turning eighteen and even thought alot of the years we were not talking she sent my kids nothing for their birthdays and christmas. I was always close to my nephew but since his mother and me are not talking he doesn't bother with me. This year I don't think I am sending him anything. He hurts me he can't even send me a text asking me how I'n doing. So I guess just just call me depressed, lonely and hurt.
deleted_user
deleted_user
First, I want to wish you good luck on your surgery.
Second, It is ture we can't pick our relatives! My friends are so much more supportive. They have their own lives and can't be there all the time but if you have someone to call or cry on their shoulder, it is worth more than gold!
Take care
Mary
Allscars
Allscars
It sounds like you've tried and tried. Just leave the ball in their court now and enjoy the days in your life, the friends and family that you do have. It is hard to walk away from family but sometimes it is NECESSARY for your own emotional well being. Good luck with the surgery

Hugs, Donna
Teresa520
Teresa520
I have struggle with my siblings for years. And what you are going through, I can understand. I decided to just let it go and move on. I can tell you stories. I tried for years but i could never meet up to their standards. I gave up. As hard as it was bc i miss my nieces and nephew, it was one less thing i had to worry about. I wish them well.
And wish you well with your surgery. If you ever want to talk about siblings....I am here and can relate. GOOD LUCK :)
PinterestFan
PinterestFan
Children, even 18 year olds, aren't really able to call and text a realitive that their mother isn't speaking to, without making things bad for themselves, in most cases.

I hope your surgery goes well.
DeuceBMG
DeuceBMG
Yes,best of luck on your surgery! I would imagine it would be very nerve wracking when you don't have a lot of support from family! It's amazing how people don't even stop to wonder how their family members are doing even when there's a major event happening! I'm sure they will regret it later on when you haven't talked for even more years! Hang in there!
getfuzzy
getfuzzy
I hope your surgury goes well and that you are blessed with skilled doctors and enjoy a jast and full recovrey.

I'm sorry for the distance that has occured between you and your sister...and now your nephew. At 18, he's still young in trying to figure out some of the complexities of relationships between family members. My recommendation is to continue to reach out to him...send me a card...a text...and let him know how much you care about him...even if he doesn;t return an ackowledgement.

Possibly you reaching him out to him today is having a bigger impact on him that he is able to express at this time. But your contact and may having a lasting impression. Wouldn;t it be wonderful if a few years from now when he is maturer, that he is able to look back upon your pisistence messages of care for him...which may turn into a closer relationship with him for the rest of your lives. You never know, but's it worth trying.