I know that you don't believe it now, but this is only temporary and you won't be alone much longer. I sounds like you have a lot of love to give and will find someone that will want that companionship as much as you.

And, besides....you have us here.

Susie

i was in a similar situation. i was in a 4 year relationship which i had to end due to numerous reasons which i wont get into. its hard going from being with someone all the time and spending holidays with them to back to spending them single again. its especially hard around now with thanksgiving, xmas, new years and vday all bunched together. plus with going places and seeing other couples everywhere and realize that used to be you.

and i thought the same thing that i was going to marry this girl, we were so great together. but then things happened and it ended. but im glad i found out things now rather than later after we were married. it was for the best. she didnt deserve a guy like me that treated her so well and did everything for her. and put up with all her stuff and get along with her family ect. she wont find another guy that will treat her the way i did and she knows she F'd up

ive been single now for almost 2 years and it seems like ill never find another girl. but its one of those right place right time things, it just happens. i hope it does one day. but i also have a feeling it has to do with the area i live in. girls here are stuck up, shallow, high maintenance and just want hot guys and dont care they treat them like crap.
problem is thats not me and i respect women and know how to treat them

@winesar - it will take some time, but it is always best to disengage from an unhealthy relationship sooner rather than later. I was in one for a long time, we broke up, and it was painful but now I am happily married and so very glad I did not remain in the dysfunction.

@derek - I am sorry you live in an area where you are not appreciated! I can imagine what it is like there, I went to the East Coast once and felt shunned, out of place, it felt very cold to me, but I'm a tomboyish girl who knows nothing and cares nothing about clothes, makeup, fashion, or material things. I want experiences and fun and have never connected with other girls on that level of shopping and superficial stuff. There has to be someone out there who will have the same attitude and be thankful!

it gets better with time they say

I have found that the only way that it will get better with time is if things actually get better.
Unfortunately for me things stay the same which make things worse. *laughs*

i know how u feel, been alone for almost 2 yrs, and i feel like i will remain alone. christmas and new years are the worst time for me.sumtimes u just need the companionship of sumone. its been really hard this year spending all this time to myself.

I'm so sorry. I agree that you won't be alone forever, though. Things are just harder now because the breakup just happened, but things will get better.

Over the past year, I fell in love with a guy who was facing major personal difficulties, and it didn't work out to say the least. I met him right around this time last year, so it's been rough. I can relate to missing someone and feeling lonely. I'd give so much to have had things work out, but some things are beyond my control.

Anyways, I hope you feel better soon. Once the pain of this breakup is over with, there will most likely be relief. 7 months is a long time for turmoil. You'll be happier in the long run, and there will be someone else who you get along with better.

Thank you guys so much for all the support! Really helps me get through my day, since somedays I just feel like giving up. I hope things do get better with time,