My ex told me he wants to marry me again.  The kicker is he is re-married.  I'm not posting this for advice, but for encouragement, but please feel free to share your thoughts.

When we separated it was not my desire to divorce, but rather to seek marriage counseling & reconcile.   Well that didn't happen.  My ex filed for divorce and I did not contest.  

I had to learn to be alone, learn about myself and love myself.  It has not been easy because I had to confront many of my fears (for example, rejection and fear of failure).  I learned you cannot change what your not willing to confront.  

Well, nine years later, when my ex told me he wanted to remarry, I was amazed how much healing had taken place in me, so much so that what I wanted to hear during the separation had no impact on me nine years later, matter of fact, I didn't say anything disrespectful but I sure have given him a piece of my mind.  Madea said when you have a chance to hurt the person who hurt you and you don't take that opportunity to retaliate, most likely you are over that relationship. 

I don't want to mislead anyone, I care about my ex, but I love myself more than compromising myself.  Spending time alone has helped me to establish boundaries and not settle for less, especially for my ex who is a married man or any other man who cannot meet my standards.

If you are in transition after a divorce and struggling with being alone, give yourself permission to be alone.  There is someone waiting to meet you, and that person is who you see when you look in a mirror.  There are some incredible things about yourself waiting to be discovered!   Enjoy where you are to where you are going.

Peace & Blessings!