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Reciprocal Relationships

Diva
Diva

I hope this post finds you doing well.



What are your thoughts about the components of reciprocal relationships/friendships.  Personally, majority of my relationships/friendships and past marriage have been mostly one-sided, which means I feel that I was more of the giver.   I learned that I need to focus on relationships/friendships that are reciprocal.  



Because I am mostly use to being the giver in the relationship who takes the initiative, or relied upon to take the initiative, I'm not sure what a healthy reciprocal relationship/friendship should look like.  



I do understand what has caused me to engage in non-reciprocal relationships/friends.  I am now very intentional about not carrying out old behaviors that influenced my decisions and choices in non-reciprocal relationships, however, I would like to hear your thoughts on what a healthy reciprocal relationships/friendships looks like.


Any suggestions/advice.

mirandac
mirandac
Try to just self focus and do what feels
Good for you. Dont worry about others .
I am healing And i need to heal from the
inside out.

I go to alanon/CODA that helps a lot with
Those issues of being the giver and not
Receiving. HUGS
Diva
Diva
Thank you mirandac
stardust7
stardust7
Hi Diva. When I was younger a lot of my relationships were pretty one-sided. I was always the giver or the one to take all the intiative. I finally decided I needed to stick up for myself, not in a demanding way but to look at any relationship I was getting into and decide if it was equal or more one-sided. I've done pretty well in that area over the past decade or so (ok, yes I'm here because I just divorced but for something very unrelated haha). Anyway, try to weigh this as you get into new relationships before it becomes an issue. I'm no expert but I think it's important in every relationship...or maybe it has to be the right dynamic that works for each within it...whatever...all I know is you have to be happy and it has to be right with what your standards demand. When it works it's great. Lots of luck to ya!