I hope this post finds you doing well.
What are your thoughts about the components of reciprocal relationships/friendships. Personally, majority of my relationships/friendships and past marriage have been mostly one-sided, which means I feel that I was more of the giver. I learned that I need to focus on relationships/friendships that are reciprocal.
Because I am mostly use to being the giver in the relationship who takes the initiative, or relied upon to take the initiative, I'm not sure what a healthy reciprocal relationship/friendship should look like.
I do understand what has caused me to engage in non-reciprocal relationships/friends. I am now very intentional about not carrying out old behaviors that influenced my decisions and choices in non-reciprocal relationships, however, I would like to hear your thoughts on what a healthy reciprocal relationships/friendships looks like.
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