Hey Kiddo, it really does get better. I swear, it gets better.

Right now, you are so buried where you are. This stuff will pass and get resolved.

Just remember, no storm lasts forever.

Sending you support and a hug, L~

I can tell you that my life is much better. I no longer have that extra weight dragging me down with all the garbage he brought into my life.

You will get where we all are now. It will just take more of that word we all hate to hear. More time. Time usually takes care of a lot of things.

My wish for you is that your life is as good as mine right now.

therapy --

I know its a standard response, and one you probably dont find any comfort in hearing, but it really can be so beneficial for someone who is genuinely stuck

(((hugs)))

I remember feeling that way too. After the monumental fighting and stress of the divorce, after it's over, it almost feels like a let down. "Is that all there is?" feeling.

The others are right-time is the great healer and changer. I also found that setting some really measurable goals helps. For me, my goal was to buy a house and now I am going to see that goal. Sit down and really decide what you want out of life for YOU.

Sending hugs!

I have no life and My son is grown. I feel very lonely I do have my grandkids but they don't live close enough for me to get to see them everyday. Use this time with your kids! You'll be surprised how much they'll be able to get you through this. Don't give up stay positive your kids will need you! Your time will come when you least expect it!!!! (((( Hugs)))) to you!

I only have limited time with my kids. Support and Time, Time and Support. You will get out of that funk. Don't be too hard on yourself.

I am feeling the same way. I know everyone says it gets better but in the mean time this feeling just drags on. I do like reply #1 about being buried where I am. So true. It will get better. I mean I can't imagine feeling this way next year. Like life is just going to pass us by. It won't. Slowly it will pick us up and start moving us along with it and we will look back and see we have moved.

Get yourself moving - If you don't already - Excercise daily (only one day of rest per week for now). I have 3 kids I find the time for myself now after I pack their lunches at night - you can find time somewhere too. You'll feel better trust me. If you don't like working out find something that's fun for you - swimming,tennis whatever. If you can, find a workout buddy to help push you when you don't feel like doing it. Then when you're ready, try some new things for yourself - join a class or find some singles group to do fun outings or online dating. You've gone through one of the toughest things in life it's ok to feel sad for a while.... but not for too long now. Your kids need you at your best.

Neverbetter, I would love to find time for me, but I have nobody to help me with he kids. I can't leave them alone, ages 9 and 4. I have no family, am moving currently from our house to an apartment, and am too broke to look or pay for a sitter. I don't know anyone here except my one neighbor and they are never home. I work full time plus, and it's just a mess right now. My older one isn't taking the move or being separated from his dad and me and, at a loss.

Thank you all. I'm in a hole right now.