Hey mybeach,

You don't day how long you were married, but 4 years is really not that long to be single after a divorce, especially if you were married for any length of time. It took me 5+ years to be ready for a relationship after my marriage of 13 years.

I don't think it's terrible that you think you want a long distance relationship; however, I think it's more likely that you are just not ready for a relationship. So many people jump right back in to a new relationship after a divorce and that is one of the worst things you can do.

Take this time you have and focus on yourself and your kids. If you do decide to try a long distance relationship just be aware that if you do fall madly in love and decide to take it further at some point, one of you will have to make a major move.

Hope this helps

Thakns for the reply. It was actually my second marriage. My first was 12 years and I was single for about 3 years. When I met my second husband we both got along great but just could not blend our families. He had 2 kids and I had one. His ex was VERY involved in their lives and mine was non-existant. We parted after 5 years, one of those being married. Still friends and we occassionally talk but he has had 3 relationships since our divorce.

I just really miss having that emotional bond. As a single mom, I have no adult life except work. I go to the gym daily and have to find my alone time. My daughter's dad is back in the picture and she now spends some time with him. I find that I want to go out and meet people but no idea how. I hate bars so I would rather stay home. I guess that is why I seek a long distance relationship so I can have my time alone and maybe have an emotional connection. Maybe I am just strange!!! :0)

I'm divorced 2 1/2 years (separated 5yrs) and a single mom too. I met someone in person but we couldn't see each other that much. We then had an email relationship for a few years (even though we lived close enough to see each other...) After a while I knew that he was really screwed up (like my ex), but I don't regret the years of our email relationship. I'd start my day with 'good morning' and email him the banal things that happen in my day. We both were going through very painful divorces and we were 'there' for each other in certain ways. Then I found out he was a real creep and I couldn't spend my time and energy with someone I could not respect (and who ultimately had no respect for me as well)

But I understand your need for that daily 'hi how's your day?' relationship. I find that's one of the things I miss the most being single.

Thanks for the reply/support. I don't hate being alone, most of the time I value it... better to be alone than in bad company. However, sometimes it is lonely.

Hi, I feel like you a lot of times. One of the things it's working for me is meetup.com. I found a single parent with children group and i also go to a divorce care support group in a local church. I met great people that help me to go through this difficult time.

Hi mybeach. Funny thing. I havnt been on this sight in years and the first post I read was yours. I completely understand how sometimes you just want to talk with no pressure. Thats kinda what I am looking for too. If your I interested in that, message me on this sight. Either way, I hope you start feeling better. Nick

No, it's not terrible , actually understandable!! It's safer ( risk wise) will fill your need to have someone to talk to & who cares about you .. Bonus is if you do fall in love & want to be together... You can always change your mind & find a way to be with each other!! Good luck to you!