So it's been 3 years since the divorce and 4 years separated. It was a very hard divorce but we have since become friends because we have to keep it calm and okay for the sake of our child. The thing is within 6 months I recently reconnected with an old friend from high school. We had a one day physical thing but nothing serious and we were friends through school. He's now married with 3 children. The thing is we began contacting each other pretty regularly (texts, phone calls, fb messages) There was some really inappropriate talk sexual in nature and a lot of sharing intimate things with each other. I began to fall for him not just because of that but him as a person. We have since stopped all inappropriateness and maintained a friendship. The thing is his wife found out we were talking, it caused a huge trust thing in their relationship (for obvious reasons). Now I feel really bad about the whole thing. I know that if I was his wife I would feel terribly betrayed if I knew the whole truth. I'm really thinking about cutting off even the friendship because we have crossed that boundary and it has caused problems in his marriage. Plus I'm afraid that if I continue talking with him that I will fall deeper in love with him with no real future. I don't really believe in affairs and it really sucks that I let this get this far. It also sucks that this is my first experience since the divorce with a man. I guess it doesn't help also that I'm disabled and am home a lot alone to think about it. I really just want to move on from this and find relationships with men who are unattached. So I want some feedback on this. I really believe I'm doing the right thing.