Life After Divorce Support Group
This community is dedicated to starting over after a divorce. With the marriage over, how do individuals begin a new chapter in their lives and what hurdles do they face? Divorce is often one of the most traumatic periods in a person's life. Studies show it is the second-most stressful event in life, after the death of a spouse.
I've been divorced since November/separated since August. My job situation has been topsy-turvy with me either working 50+hours or under 30 hours. I also have a second part-time job. Because of the erratic work schedule, I no longer am involved in any extra curricular activities, which is where I had my friends. So here it is the weekend, and I have no one to hang with. My adult daughter has started hanging with her bf more, and my son has a life of his own so here I am to entertain myself. I have a bf, but we're in a LDR. The situation with him is "complicated." I have one kind of close friend I could do something with, but she isn't someone I want to hang around with all the time. I really need friends, who I am more compatible with, but my life is so complicated. I'm broke and guess I just have to wait things out, and hopefully they'll get better.
On top of everything, I keep distance between myself and others because I simply don't want everyone to know that I'm divorced. I don't want guys thinking I'm available so I isolate myself. I've only told a handful of people and didn't even tell part of my family, until I saw them face-to-face on Christmas. Life is an absolute hardship right now but for the bf, who does help me out, is a confidante, best friend, etc.
I guess this is just how it is, and I keep telling myself that hopefully things will get better. Eventually, I'll have more control of my life, some normalcy, and can be happy again. The wait just seems like an eternity.
Anyone know best how to cope with some of this?
I would say find something you would like to do. I have used the meetup App a few times and gone hiking or meditation with complete strangers. It was a scary experience but rewarding once I got there. I also tried Toastmasters and meet some great people. Sometimes to make something change, you have to try something different. After all, we only got one life must well enjoy it when we can.
G
I decided I wanted to have a life as Maya Angelou did (as an adult she experienced a lot of things in life by choice)
One lifestyle change I made was to join several groups at Meetup.com. That was one of my social activities I added to my life.
I also chose to stop making my good paying job be the determining factor as to what I could or couldn't with my life (like my ex did) so I chose to go back to school for a new career, attend Meetups and do volunteer opportunities whenever I can.
I can say now, I'm tired but loving that I belong somewhere so I'm not lonely.
Hugs and I know you can do it!
Life is still going turbulent, as my job situation is up and down/all over the place. Health is iffy at the, and I am missing health insurance. Plus living alone I simply don't have the support I had.
I reflect on this, how I was married to a man, who loved me. I simply didn't love him back and feel sadness for that. As much as I struggle, I am in a better place. It's just really hard, as I'm so busy working and haven't had time to cultivate friendships.
I am a loner and have been my whole life. Occasionally, I make close friends. They usually seek me out, but I am alone, other than my LDR person. I wonder if something is wrong with me, since I am such a loner but just accept that that's how things are going to be for a while. I need my life to be normal again. Not sure if/when that will happen.
I'll try and figure out how to turn notifications on, in case anyone else might happen to respond.
Have a great one, and thanks for listening! Not sure there's much help out there for me.. Just have to muddle through life, and eventually, things will be better, as nothing ever stays the same.