Life After Divorce Support Group
This community is dedicated to starting over after a divorce. With the marriage over, how do individuals begin a new chapter in their lives and what hurdles do they face? Divorce is often one of the most traumatic periods in a person's life. Studies show it is the second-most stressful event in life, after the death of a spouse.
I was watching a movie last night. There was trouble and worry; the husband walked over to the wife, they looked at each other with that look of solidarity. Then he cradled her face in his hands and kissed her gently and they hugged.
Which started the tears again. It is sex to a certain extent, but it is also the incidental kisses, the hugs, feeling the mass of a man's body next to mine. I miss laying my head on his shoulder and feeling his arms around me. I miss the feeling of connection, when you know someone is on your side. I even miss the smell of his sweat when he came in from working hard.
Look, I'm 58 and I'm not the slip of a girl I once was. And when you are younger, you just know more single people. Let's face it: the opportunities have shrunk dramatically, even if I thought I could open my heart to it again. I don't know that I will ever have a man kiss me like that again, or look at me with delight or need or trust or hope in his eyes.
I know it's not the only thing in life. I am blessed with wonderful friends (male and female) and family. I am okay financially and I can come and go as I please, now that I have all this freedom. I know there are other happinesses in life. But that kind of joy, that heart-swelling sweetness and poignancy - that is gone for me. I miss it.
Which started the tears again. It is sex to a certain extent, but it is also the incidental kisses, the hugs, feeling the mass of a man's body next to mine. I miss laying my head on his shoulder and feeling his arms around me. I miss the feeling of connection, when you know someone is on your side. I even miss the smell of his sweat when he came in from working hard.
Look, I'm 58 and I'm not the slip of a girl I once was. And when you are younger, you just know more single people. Let's face it: the opportunities have shrunk dramatically, even if I thought I could open my heart to it again. I don't know that I will ever have a man kiss me like that again, or look at me with delight or need or trust or hope in his eyes.
I know it's not the only thing in life. I am blessed with wonderful friends (male and female) and family. I am okay financially and I can come and go as I please, now that I have all this freedom. I know there are other happinesses in life. But that kind of joy, that heart-swelling sweetness and poignancy - that is gone for me. I miss it.
Just your talking about it means you are opening up to it.
Don't worry about the odds. I promise I won't either, since I'd like to think there are more fish in my sea.
I found love again and I hope you do too....
Don't forget, with age comes wisdom
You can avoid quite a few mistakes and are more likely to find lasting happiness in your hopes X
I do understand that there are compensations with growing older. There are many things about it that I truly appreciate. In fact, I think I am able, in some ways, to process the end of my marriage a lot better now than I would have if it had been 10 or 15 years ago.
But it is just that......I do miss that feeling of being in love and committed to someone. I do so appreciate the manliness of men. I'm glad that some of you can relate. It helps to know I'm not alone.