I was 10 months Start to finish. We each had a lawyer,
One financial mediation,

10 months is the norm from what have i heard when
there are lawyers And courts involved.

Many states have different Rules. Some make you live
separate for so long before even filing, Some you wait
afterward before its final, many are no fault states, some
are fault states. HUGS

My state has no waiting period. During the first meeting with the judge, he said we could get divorced that day! If only!

Mine was not typical. Ten weeks total. Prenuptial in place. No arguments. One lawyer- hers. Total related costs for me-$400. Hugs to those of you struggling.

Mine took 19 months but I changed my filing status on the advice of my atty. The ex was working in Africa and we had to wait til he was in the states to have him served.

We sat down together and had our settlement done in less than a week. He pretty much gave me everything I asked for including tax free alimony. My atty suggested changing to one year separation which would keep me on the ex's insurance longer.

The ex never said he didn't want a divorce but I knew he already had another wife. I will say that was the longest 19 months in my life. Three court hearings and the ex was represented by his atty. The divorce was final Dec 11 of 07 and I had my freedom papers in my hand when I left the court house.

That wasn't the end of my contact with the ex. For some stupid reason he thought he could come back home. Three more court hearings for contempt and it was finally over. If my atty had not put that non modifiable clause in the divorce decree I would have been in trouble. In the end the ex had to sign the farm over to me to stay out of jail. I just know that the ex hates me and I never have to worry about dealing with him again. So did my divorce take the 19 months or the 7 plus years to get him out of my life.? I'm just so very grateful that I was led to the atty I had. Without him I would not have the life I have now.

Some spouses are just plain old hard to divorce,
Personality Disordered ones can be very challenging
Emotionally and legally. Some won't ever let go of the
need to punish you.

Jojo you have an emotionally Immature Passive
aggressive one that has dug his heals in that Does
not want to get divorced and wants you to pay.

Many times revenge Is the motive when they keep
trying to cause trouble during the divorce and some
Times afterward. I am thankful deep down, He had
wanted out and he had a GF already. Not that i liked
either one it just made the actual divorce process easier.

My ex hates my guts because of his financial Consequences
so be it that on him, his actions. His behaviors. TFB, HUGS

Geez. I just asked a coworker, and she said her divorce was similar to mine. Her ex did not want to accept any settlement, dragged things out a year, and ended up with the settlement that was proposed in the beginning. That's what I feel will happen. I could handle a year, still living with stbx, but not any longer. Psychologically, May 11, 2017 is the date it needs to be done by, or I will go beserk. And I do wish there was another woman, anything to encourage him to leave and re-start his own life. I don't think I would even feel betrayed or hurt at this point. Maybe I will hire an 'escort' for him, someone to be a GF for a few months. It would probably cost less than the attorney fees I'm incurring getting him and his lawyer to respond!

Thanks for the replies. Definately a range of experiences here. And pre-nup? Brilliant.

My ex and I cooperated on everything, and just had an attorney write it up and file it. Even with that, it still took 7 months or so, start to finish. (our state has no waiting period).

There was a parenting class that is required in Oregon. Our attorney told us about that so we both enrolled as soon as possible so that wouldn't be a hold up. It took 3 months to get enrolled and complete the class. Finally, there was about 2.5 months from when the paperwork was filed and when the court signed off on it. So considering all that, 7 months is pretty quick.

Wow, 7 months. I wish! I took the parenting class within a month of filing. He took it months later, he probably "forgot" about it. Stbx threatens trial every now and then. He really doesn't want to divorce, not because of me, but because he doesn't want his life and lifestyle to change. He can't see ANY benefit to ending this marriage, over 8 years dead. Maybe 9, maybe 10. I see ONLY benefits.

My husband and I were separated for just over 3 years before the divorce actually began. The divorce took one year. Then my settlement appeal another year or so. Then my legal malpractice another year or so.

A lot of it actually depends on the state that you live in. Most states nowadays have what is called a 'cooling off' period in which you must wait before everything is finalized. But holy cow...yeah it sounds like you've gone through the worst!! Luckily for me we had no property, no children, no anything. So it was quick and easy. I hope it gets better for you and you get everything taken care of!

Thanks all. Just got a text message that our appointments which were to have been in the beginning of March have now just been rescheduled to mid and late April. Six freaking weeks, on top of the other past delays, of being stuck on hold, having to see him every day. It makes me want to puke. If he tries to cancel these meetings, I will insist my lawyer go straight to the judge.

Dan there is no waiting period in my state. We could've been done by last summer.

My ex left in Feb. 2014, he filed right away and divorce should have been final by July or Aug as it was uncontested (he left everything behind, house, debt, everything was in my name, and we didn't have kids together) and I just didn't have the energy or money to fight or beg anymore. Since I didn't want the divorce I didn't bother checking on the outcome. In Jan, 2015, he sent me a text stating we were still married due to his idiotic attorney not following through on filing. I immediately called HIS atty's office and finished the deed. My divorce was final 1-15-15. The atty's secretary said that was the longest "uncontested" divorce she'd ever seen.

It's amazing how many attorneys are negligent with details. At least you didn't have to pay any attorney fees yougospam!