My wife and I are getting a divorce. After six months of struggling to fix our issues and improve myself, we’ve come to terms that divorce seems inevitable. She’s too hurt and resentful for my lack of trying and for letting her shoulder most of the burdens for the majority of our marriage. She sees all the changes I’ve made and how hard I’ve worked, but she said it’s just come too late. She says she’s trying to let go of the resentment she had towards me for not trying and then doing what she asked but only when she was done with the relationship... but every time the resentment seems less that something happens and it triggers her all over again. What hurts the most is that we still love each other. But she says she sees me in a completely different light right now... not the person she fell in love with. 

I’m completely heartbroken. I don’t know how I’ll go on without her. I know everyone says I’ll heal from this one day, but I am so tired of hurting. Every night and day I wake up with this horrible pain in my heart. I feel like my soul is broken. All I want is for her to hold me and tell me everything will be all right. But it won’t... not for our relationship anyway. How do I stop the soul crushing pain? How do I stop the loneliness? The feelings of isolation? And abandonment? I have so much guilt for not realizing what she needed me to do to help our marriage sooner and for not seeing the problems until it was too late. I have an amazing support system of friends and family but I feel like a burden to them. Even when I’m with someone I hurt and feel alone. How do you go in when you are exhausted from the pain and heartache?