Hi there, I'm new to the board. I've yet to join a support group, and I really should. My ex and I have been divorced 7 years. Our son was 2 at the time. For most of our divorce, getting my ex to see his son has been like pulling teeth. Even though our parenting plan/decree states he has him every weekend, most weekends he'd plan trips to go out of state, out of country, etc. When he started dating again, we saw even less of the ex. Coming from a background of divorce and knowing how my mom did everything she could to keep my dad out of my life, I never wanted to do that to our son. When we divorced, I moved 5 min away. My door was always open. Even though he didn't take me up on the offer, we got along all right. Even his gf and I got along.
Then he broke up with the gf in 2013. By this time, I was re-married. We (my husband and I) were always the shoulder to cry on for my ex, even though he was the one who sabotaged his relationship by cheating on her multiple times. He was very "woe is me". He didn't understand how she'd dump him. He's very selfish and narcisstic and it's hard for him to see things logically.
December 2013 he informed me he'd met someone new. He knew her all of 3 weeks by this time. Due to this, he informed me he'd see less of our son now, because he had to see where this new relationship was headed. They got engaged two months later and just got married. The ex's new wife doesn't like me. She has a hard time with the fact that I'm the ex wife, and that we share a son together. She's never been married, has no children of her own. My ex told me himself that she's insecure. Soon after the engagement, the ex moved out of state to live with his now wife. He talks to our son maybe once every 3 weeks. And when I try to have a conversation with him, his wife is always in the background. He's also become much more critical of my parenting style, where he wasn't before. They've also sat my son down and told him he needs to start calling the new wife "mom". I told my son he shouldn't call anyone anything he's not comfortable with. He's barely known this woman nearly a year, if that. When they got married, it was the 2nd time he'd met her! This in and of itself shows me how insecure she is.
I am trying to keep the peace, but those two are driving me nuts. I keep trying to have my son's best interest at heart, and I know for him, getting along with his dad would be a good thing, but I don't know how much more I can take. I needed to vent and to maybe seek out some guidance. Should I keep on keeping the peace?