You sound like you know what you are doing, just go with the flow as today's generation seem to do. I am 66 and divorced almost 10 years but I have been alone since. Alone, not lonely. Do what is right for you. If you live alone, make it clear that he vamoose either the same night or the next day. No moving in with each other. My daughter is living with me and when she moves out, that is what I am aiming to do.

I think most men would be comfortable with what you are proposing. Just make it clear up front. If they don't like that, tell them to beat it.

That's basically what I've been doing. Most men I meet seem more needy and want to "cuddle all night." Oh well... If I die alone, so be it.

Hon, you will not die alone, because there is always three people in the room with you "Me, Myself and I' I have learned to be my own best friend and the time I spend just relaxing and enjoying life is amazing. If I want to talk to someone, I talk to God and call some of these help talk lines.

Hi Ladies, ... I was just rolling along looking at posts, and there yall were. I am 50 and separated. Given my whole youth to my marriage. I am afraid, now I know that alone is not the end of the world, but I would like that to my choice, not because no one wants me and I them equally. So far just looking at the online sites, and what I attract makes my self esteem take a nose dive. I am sure I will struggle with morality issues and I am very moral. Not sure what men these days want from a woman my age. Men, chime in :)

I also use online dating sites to find potential matches. but no good result till now. Meet several scammers from Africa, be careful on the dating scams.

I am 47 and have been divorced for the last 7 years. Online dating is a challenge, men decide to have fantasy online and not get into relationship. I am very much moral and I dont like expressing my feelings online, I am told I cant find a man if I will not be open to them. Isn't scary? Talking of scammers, they are everywhere.

As far as i am concerned i would rather be alone than
Be on an online dating site. Many do and i know i am a
Bit old Fashioned. You have to wade thru so much muck
And yucky people and tons of predators, not going there.

I am also not ready to date, i truly believe the right one
Will appear when the time is right and if nothing happens
Then so be it. I am 60 and i still have high hopes for myself
and all my future happiness after i am healed. HUGS

I'm a guy. Divorced at 40, now 47. When I finally started dating again, I tried the online sites. They worked pretty well. I also found that there are some who just want to send messages back and forth online, and would always have an excuse for why they couldn't take a call or skype... after a week or two of that, it's time to move on; they aren't serious about dating.

I had a few dates where there was zero connection in person. Other dates where I noticed that we were annoying the waiter; He had come back 3 times to take our order and we were so busy talking that we hadn't even looked at the menu; and later they had to kick us out at closing. (I left him a nice tip).

Have gone out on a 3rd or 4th date where my date suggested a movie that was at the end of the run, got to the theater a little early and found it empty, so we sat in the very back. No one else showed up so we made out all through the previews. Said it made her feel 17 again. :-)

One woman gave me a few too many good-by kisses at her door before she invited me inside; she wanted to continue on the couch for perhaps 30 minutes but made it clear that she was not ready for sex yet. (which is fine). I would rather that a woman be clear with me upfront rather than have me misunderstand what they want and hurt each others feelings. Not too many dates later, she did invite me to stay the night. That was over 2 years ago, we're still dating. (but we each have our own places)

As far as what men want from a relationship, well, you're eventually going to have to ask. We're all different. Sure, some men want only sex. Some will want it as part of a committed relationship. Some think it's one of the most important parts, others couldn't be bothered. For me personally, I think this is one of those conversations that is had early, before either person invests too much time and emotion. What makes it a problem is when both people in the relationship have different expectations. So, I suppose you need to go out on a limb, and ask your guy what they want. Do you want to be physical. Are you ok with making out and stopping, etc. etc. If the guy is offended by all this, don't waste your time.

On the lumpy parts; if you are dating someone your own age, they will have them too. we're all human. Also, if you are a guy and a woman is generous enough to sleep with you, you need to be thankful, not critical. If you are critical of your date, expect to be dumped. promptly.