Life After Divorce Support Group

This community is dedicated to starting over after a divorce. With the marriage over, how do individuals begin a new chapter in their lives and what hurdles do they face? Divorce is often one of the most traumatic periods in a person's life. Studies show it is the second-most stressful event in life, after the death of a spouse.

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Beginning of the end??

antaresmom
antaresmom
Ok people 16 yrs of marriage i believe has come to an end for me........so what to do now???Once again we had a fight again over money.......ok yes i screwed up and didnt tell him about the large sum missing from the account,and yes i was putting it back in little by little,but I was still returning it....Now usually i cry at these extreme fights,this time i didnt however,not 1 tear...why?? i ask myself...is it because i want control???? or is it because,I am tired,tired of being called stupid(all the time),tired of the mistrust,tired of the disrespect,tired of taking care of him,instead of me,,,,,,,,I am not happy......so i guess what im asking is how do i get happy once more??? any advice much appeciated.thanks for listening...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't have great advice, but I do share your pain. It would have been our 16th anniversary this month. Instead, we are legally separated.

My only suggestion is that you read, "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft and the book "Financial Infidelity." These books might help explain why you did what you did. It could be his verbal abuse at the root of your own financial dishonesty. Not that it justifies your actions, but that it explains them.

You can be strong and go on. I don't know yet how strong I will be, but I'm willing to give it a try.
deleted_user
deleted_user
No advice here either, but I am in the same boat. We will be married for 22 years this January and we are starting the process of divorce and its very overwheliming. Hang in there and people tell me it gets better at some point in time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
have you tried couples counseling? maybe you both are miserable but can still fix your problems.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am telling you now. If no physical or heavy drug abuse is present and children of the marriage are. Avoid divorce at all cost. Money is the worst thig to fight over or conceil. Work it out. Some of us are stubborn and hard headed about things, but the pain I suffered and the time I miss with my daughter is horrible. Now I am happier without the lying cheating wife I had and we are much better off, but my daughter got screwed.