Life After Divorce Support Group

This community is dedicated to starting over after a divorce. With the marriage over, how do individuals begin a new chapter in their lives and what hurdles do they face? Divorce is often one of the most traumatic periods in a person's life. Studies show it is the second-most stressful event in life, after the death of a spouse.

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After 2 years, I still struggle

Joe64
Joe64
My children moved in with me Jan 10, 2014. Happy times and my kids are great! I am much better than two years ago but it is a slow gradual process and I still feel lonely at times, especially when they visit their mom on weekends. I also wake up at night even when they are here. My kids and I have a great relationship but I admit I still long for adult female companionship. Sometimes it is very difficult.
Gwinnie
Gwinnie
Joe, yes the healing process after divorce can be difficult at times be patient with yourself and eventually you will move on. Wishing you the best.
Joe64
Joe64
Thank you Gwinnie. It didn't help that I saw my ex Saturday.
momto22001
momto22001
I am almost three years into my journey, and am amazed at how far I have come.

But there are times like Mother's Day yesterday that set me back to the beginning, the difference is I get over the pain in a matter of hours or days now not weeks andmonths.
Joe64
Joe64
Yes, I am actually better today. It's just a bit much some days, single dad raising three kids and a demanding job. But so glad to have my kids AND my job! Sometimes the combinations come together to make a very difficult day. Loneliness and stress, then seeing my ex. Glad the weekend is over.
jaclyn1973
jaclyn1973
weekends are the worst. sometimes when I get off work on Fridays, I sit in my car just dreading to go home
hurtinandhealin2560
hurtinandhealin2560
I think it's normal to be lonely for adult companionship, no matter how rich and full your life is.

I am 5 years post divorce, and I still have times when I get lonely. Just part of the process.

Hang in there.

Hugs!
kg1130
kg1130
I Hate Fridays myself, everyone seems to have plans but me, I know That's not true but it feels like it plus I have no money to do anything. I had a friend asked me to go eat with her on Saturday and I couldnt go because I had to work the part time job. A year from now I will loik back and I will see progress even id it is just a little.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think you need to find an activity for yourself on the weekends, especially those when the kids go with their mom. You need some Social Interaction with adults with similar interest.
This will help you develop a life away from your past. There should be alot of events for you to go to during the weekends in and around your community.