Life After Divorce Support Group
This community is dedicated to starting over after a divorce. With the marriage over, how do individuals begin a new chapter in their lives and what hurdles do they face? Divorce is often one of the most traumatic periods in a person's life. Studies show it is the second-most stressful event in life, after the death of a spouse.
I left my husband 6 months ago. He was controlling and manipulating and emotionally abusive.
He spent the first 4 months after our divorce trying to get me to come back. leaving cards and letters on my car, coming to my house with flowers. having his children write me letters and cards telling me how much they loved me (yes he is that manipulative that he used his kids to try to get me back). finally he wouldn't take no for an answer and i had to get my therapist to intervene and tell him not to contact me again.
After i left i started a journal. I wrote on the first page.....never forget how good it felt the day after you left him. How free you felt. how it felt like you were a bird being let out of a cage for the first time.
Now he is dating left and right. on every dating site imaginable. i obsess about his life. i work as a school bus aide and i brought a student home that lives in the same apartment building as he does and sure enough he walked out of his building with another woman. first time i have seen him with another woman.
i still have access to his bank account. i see how he spends his money and it is on memberships to every dating site out there. i know i have to stop obsessing over him, but i can't seem to.
why is it that when i wanted out of the relationship, why can't i just let him go.
its christmas eve and im sad and feeling alone. remembering how i was married and had a family last christmas and now im just one.
He spent the first 4 months after our divorce trying to get me to come back. leaving cards and letters on my car, coming to my house with flowers. having his children write me letters and cards telling me how much they loved me (yes he is that manipulative that he used his kids to try to get me back). finally he wouldn't take no for an answer and i had to get my therapist to intervene and tell him not to contact me again.
After i left i started a journal. I wrote on the first page.....never forget how good it felt the day after you left him. How free you felt. how it felt like you were a bird being let out of a cage for the first time.
Now he is dating left and right. on every dating site imaginable. i obsess about his life. i work as a school bus aide and i brought a student home that lives in the same apartment building as he does and sure enough he walked out of his building with another woman. first time i have seen him with another woman.
i still have access to his bank account. i see how he spends his money and it is on memberships to every dating site out there. i know i have to stop obsessing over him, but i can't seem to.
why is it that when i wanted out of the relationship, why can't i just let him go.
its christmas eve and im sad and feeling alone. remembering how i was married and had a family last christmas and now im just one.
he's moved on because he wasn't really all in
you were so it will take you some time
it just does take time
it helped me when i stopped worrying how much time
hang in there, you will be okay
It's sort of like Stockholm Syndrome. Sadly, its quite common when coming out of an abusive relationship.
~healing hugs~