Liars Anonymous Community Group

A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!

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pablita2 09/10/2008

I'm interested to see what kinds of therapy or other treatment people in this group have tried. I have tried both. I went to one-on-one therapy for about 6 years, and never found it help, maybe because of two reasons: a) it was easy for me to lie and manipulate my therapist and b) I may have been young and hadn't yet really researched about my disease like I have now.

Currently I am trying group therapy, or really just group work with Al-Anon. I also tried to go to Codependents Anonymous, but I don't think I was ready for that yet. I really recommend group therapy. I've found it helpful so far, and I've been going a little over 6 months.

deleted_user 09/10/2008

I've tried one on one therapy for lying and OCD. At the time I started, around 6 years ago, my parents would attend with me. The problem I had then was that I was just going through the motions and not really putting forth an effort to change and do the things that my therapist was asking me to do. More recently I had started going on my own and too found it very easy to manipulate and lie to my therapist to make my situation better than what it really is and also the fact that I still hadn't been doing the things he would ask of me. That's the only therapy I've tried. I'd be willing to try others though.

deleted_user 01/17/2009

MadW, do you find it hard not to be deceitful to therapists? I worry that anyone who legitimately tries to help, I will just lie to, or hide the complete truth.

Ister 01/19/2009

It is very, very difficult not to lie to the therapist. Although I was on a therapy to save my marriage and it actually wasn't about lies (what a surprise - I didn't actually told that I lie all the time), but it is obvoius I should tell about that.
Now I am thinking again about a therapy to fight with lies. And I can see two problems. One is that an incompetent therapist who has never coped with similar problem won't help much. Second is that as long as I don't lie - it will work. But once I start lying again - what can prevent me from lying to the therapist?

deleted_user 03/31/2009

I have had moderate success with a therapist. This talk makes me want to go back to her. I had been truthful to the extent that if I knew she did not judge me I could tell her 95% of the truth. Even someone I am paying to listen to and then help solve my problem was still being lied to. Crazy. At the same time I was better for going.
The key is to find a good one. That is the tough part.
One thing she really wanted me to do was tell my parent's that I never actualy graduated form college. It's true. Few know that but I was 12 credits short and I was too fearful to tell my parent's or anyone else. Now has it hurt me? Not directly, in my gut though I know I am on a graduate. This makes me sad and is yet another...."I will come back and finish this up later.

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