Good on you for posting. I'm a similar age and can relate to your situation. I have also withheld information from my partner and it has caused problems and stress. I found it hard to put myself in my partner's shoes but now realise that it's essential to do this in order to appreciate the impact of my lying on my partner. I am now on the path to changing my ways. An important first step for me was to try to work out why I lied. For me, it was a lack of self esteem - a feeling that I wasn't good enough, and a desire to impress. Your reasons may be totally different but, whatever they are, I think it's important to unearth them. Can you talk about this with your spouse? As for in-person support groups, unfortunately I can't help with any information. Hopefully someone else may be able to. Best of luck.

You're not alone. I am in a similar situation. I don't know of any in-person groups but I have found this forum to be tremendously supportive. I go to therapy both by myself and with my wife. I journal. I stop myself all the time and ask the simple question, is what I am saying untrue? It doesn't always work but it's helping.

Thanks for the reply Patrick2016 and MET
I've just started seeing a counselor again -last time about 6 ears ago and it was helpful. Joined a men's Bible study group at my church. Started going to a faith-based recovery program- Celebrate Recovery. They do open share groups for various addictions and have a 12-step program. I'm also getting closer the the Lord by reading, studying and meditating the many promises in scripture. I'm feeling better about how this may turn out in the long run. It makes me really focus on what is most important in my life // self-respect, family, especially my wife, and knowing that God is in control.
Hoping that everyone on this site is getting some help and encouragement.

Jut remember, Jesus honors the faith of a child that we are enough as we are. Jesus spoke out against the tax collectors and teachers who made themselves look better than they actually were. He wants us to be raw and admit our faults.

I'm a 64 year old who has been lying for a long time and trying to get it under control. One of the best things that has helped me is to dump it all out with my wife and work with her on my solutions to get better. She has been my best counselor even though I have put her through a lot of pain and hurt and fear. I think that's my best to sense is to work with your wife and whatever you do so she can feel some security in what you're doing to change your life. Good luck.

For what it's worth you're not alone. I'm in a similar boat with my wife of 31 years. We were separated for two years because of my lying, I got help through counseling and she took me back. For two years I didn't lie to her about anything...except I withheld one thing. While we were apart, I messed up on my corporate credit card for work and incurred a personal expense that I had to pay back, Details are not important for that. Bottom line, when we got back together, I didn't tell her I was working on paying off this debt. I lied to myself that it was just a work thing that I could fix or handle. A few weeks ago my house of cards on this issue came tumbling down and I had to let her know that I had been keeping this secret from her. It was as if the last two beautiful years we had together never happened. She now believes it was all a lie. I've hurt her so badly. For her there has been no change. It's just been me continuing my deceitful ways, and I don't blame her for believing that. What else could she believe after so many years of lying by me. How does one atone for 30 years of hurting another with the same sin? That's something I grapple with daily.