Liars Anonymous Community Group
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Joining because I am a LIAR, We have been married for almost 53 years and I have lied to my Wife to avoid conflicts. I know that lying is never the way and that it only brings grief. I have been advised to stop and think before I say something but thats not always working. Any hints to help avaoid telling a lie
Greystoke
Try stopping and thinking before you start talking. This has helped me cut back on the number of lies I have told. I also work at IMMEDIATELY retracting a lie when it comes out of my mouth. Let us know how it is going?
2saveus
Thanks for the tip, I will try to stop and think before speaking. I have found that when I am rushed or anxious I don't stop to think about what I'm saying, and many times its a LIE. It's not an excuse just what happens. Thanks again
2saveus
still working on it
2saveus
still in work.. hard to change BUT with GODS help I Can do it
BF2020
I've tried stopping and thinking, and it definitely helps. But a couple days ago I found a new obstacle: I stopped (to think through the best answer, true or not), before I proceeded with a lie I tried to think through it all, and before I could respond at all my wife recognized my usual stop-to-lie face and the whole issue escalated into a fight, before I had a chance to think through the process and answer honestly. Is there any advice on how to immediately recognize, stop the lie, and answer truthfully?
MM2020
How are you doing today?
anon9
Hi! This is a little late, but try vowing to yourself and writing it down to stop lying and just how you’re going to do it. I was able to stop cold turkey, and although I’m only 10- 11 days into the journey, it gets better. It’s so cliche but at least we’re all here, acknowledging the problem. That’s a big step if you ask me . However once I had something in written form, I feel more accountable to myself. Now, there’s going to be days where it’s harder to tell the truth, but I’m retraining my brain so when it’s something bigger, I trust myself to come out with the truth. You can start big or small and just keep going. Keep us updated, please!
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