Liars Anonymous Community Group

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tryinftobebetter 09/19/2017

I am 30 years old and have a lying problem. i recently had a month long affair for the first time ever in my 9 year marriage. I regret it with everything I am. especially since what got me there was a lie I told myself. I was convinced that my husband was leaving me because he was disappointed in me. he gave me a few quick one liner reassurances. but at the time I needed a full conversation. he has forgiven me for the affair he understand it. what we can't seem to get passed is the lying.i don't want to lie anymore. I don't know what else to do to stop

I told the other guys wife. my husband gave me that task and was only able to complete it after he broke up with me

however I learned that reactions are not on me to worry about the truth deserves the light of day. I have lies my entire life so this realization alone won't fix anything at all.

I am.numb and I will be for a while. we have broken up more times than I can count. and it's always over the same issue...lying. I need some massive amounts of help

GoingtobeaGoodPersonFreeOfLies 09/19/2017

Hello I am not sure where to start... My story FACTUAL story is that I have been a compulsive liar my whole life. I can't understand why but today is the 1st day of my forever me. I have 2 children who are in the mess of my lies but still standing by their mum. I have lost my best friend of 16 years / husband who will never forgive me EVER. I do not blame his as our whole marriage to him has been a lie. I haven't lied to him about everything just the important things which is what hurts the most.

I have also lied to friends. I tell them "I am something or I have something" and I now understand why i do it because I am not happy in myself and it is easier to lie than tell the truth, It is easier to believe in your head that people will only like you for the mould you create in your head rather than being proud of who you are and simply believing thats enough.

From this moment on I am making a promise to myself to be true to me... Keep up with my Councelling, Keep speaking the truth to those around me, accept that people will challenge what i say and allow myself to me "WHO I AM".

Only I can change the path of my life no one else. I have my back 100 % and I need to live truthfully so I can intergrade in society as a normal person, as a mother and the ex wife to my husband, friends and other family.

If i am challenged by someone about a statement I have made I need Stop, listen, Breathe, Process, Think and Speak.

Only I can make this change happen and I MUST DO IT FOR ME.......

Pia 09/20/2017

This sounds exactly like my own story but I had a two-week long affair, cheating on my boyfriend of two years, because I convinced myself that he was leaving me and was constantly disappointed in my inability to be what I thought was perfect. I lied up until the last minute when he found out everything, trying to make it all go away somehow by not even admitting the entire truth. Though we are on a break now, we are on a new path of 100% honesty which is so difficult sometimes, because I always tended to leave out little details when I told him (or anyone) things, because I didn't want to feel bad or have a discussion or for many other reasons, like inconvenience, or feeling guilt, or because I knew something was a problem. The reasons to lie ranged from tiny (convenience) to huge (I'd done something wrong and didn't want to admit it). It's really hard to get out of the habit, the one thing I do have guiding me is the terrible feeling I get inside when I'm holding back some part of the truth.

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