He's come to the right place we are here to help you if you need any answers to questions you just let me know. I'm on the same Journey as you but I am far better than what I was before. I lied to my wife several times and it has put a strain on relationship but healing has happened and things are working out for the better. I continue to do my best every day and you can too. Replace bad habits with good ones. Ask yourself why do you lie and also what can you do to make sure that you tell the truth more? I've asked myself the same questions daily.

I lied because I'm scare Ima hurt or she gonna be mad at me . I lied out of fear but sometimes I don't even know why I lied it just comes out like it second nature and I hate it .. I wanna change my ways I don't wanna be liar I lie to her today and now I just think I ruin everything and she gonna leave me .

It is truly an awful thing Ryan. But you can get through this. Dig down deep figure out who you are. Figure out what you want to be in life, and then decide what do you have to do to get there. Dig down deep and peel off all the crap you have built around you. Throw it off and start fresh. Go to your girlfriend and your family and say here's the deal. I am starting fresh and I need your help. I could plan of daily things you can do to remind yourself of the problems you cause yourself and others by lying, and things you can do to help him see that you're going to quit and help yourself also see that you're going to quit. It's got to be a daily thing that's got to be from the heart. You can do it.

Ryan,

Glad to see you found your way to this site. I’m going through something very similar with my wife. I’ve lied to her several times recently and she’s come very close to leaving. This site has really helped me over the last week or so realize that the lying that I do comes from a fear that when I do tell the truth and admit to my shortcomings I might not be good enough for my wife to stay. The reality is that it’s up to her to decide that any way, and the only course of action that even has a chance of her being in my life is honesty and openness, because the option of continuing to lie, hide, and sneak around can only end in mistrust and heartbreak for both of you. We (you and I) both need to really accept that we’re not perfect, we’re going to screw up, and our wives/girlfriends are with us because they chose to be and because they love us. But that doesn’t give us an excuse to manipulate and abuse their trust. Just keep talking with her and explaining to her what you’re thinking and feeling and when she gets angry and upset with you listen to how she feels and truly acknowledge it, because you caused it. She might not like everything you have to say, and you might not like everything she has to say, but talking and expressing yourselves can be very helpful. The good news is that she loves you, or she probably would’ve left already. So you also might have the ability; through time, hard work, determination, and setting yourself up for success, to lessen that pain for her and help yourself be better.

we talk about and we are now good , but I know its still something I need to work on because I wanna stop all together , its hard but I'm trying my best last night she ask me about something and I told her truth and it felt good I didn't how the conversaton would go but it went good and it felt really good to not lie . I just wanna keep it up I don't wanna panic and lie because thats wha usually happen and I'm just back to lying again . I wanna stop that long with everything else . what steps do I take now ? I wanna change and its coming from the heart