Hello
You have started out in the right place, You found a group of people who can relate to you and what you are going through. What you should do, As I have is found a therapist that specializes in CBT, I also have a support group here and found one in my area that has helped me also. Please dont hesitate to reach out with questions we are all here for you.

Agree with Scott.
CBt seems to be the go-to method and I’m seeing some good progress.

I am looking into them now. Thank you. Any vice would greatly be appreciated at this point I’m in a loss I don’t know where to begin. I’ve spent my whole life like this. I know it is destroying my life

Agree with flubie and scott. Counseling and therapy are best, and you have support here. I encourage you to look through other's posts and read the suggestions offered there. Good luck to you.

Thank you. I really appreciate it any help in guidance at this point is greatly needed and excepted. Yesterday was the first day I didn’t lie about anything and I was feeling good until the love of my life was angry at me. We were talking about things I lied about. I told him I would be completely honest him and I was. You’re being honest because of all of it we just talked about I made him take 12 steps backwards. that made me not want to tell the truth. Trying to make sure that our relationship would be okay. But I realized that would only hurt us in the long run.

I know exactly what you are feeling like. The love of my life is at her wits end and I’m pretty sure she’s not going to wait around to see if I lie to her again. My life is in complete shambles and it’s all because of my lies. As hard as it is, tell the truth. I’m working on taking my own advice daily. And it IS A STRUGGLE EVERYDAY

Idontwatto...you can definitely say that AGAIN! :) Taking advice can be bittersweet, and we are often hardest on ourselves so following our own advice can sometimes seem an impossible feat...but one thing I have learned...if it's our own advice, we generally tend to belueve in that advice if given in the right attitude and context. So if we believe in it, then it's possible for us...maybe difficult but definitely possible.

I find it very difficult to be honest when the person I share my life with its mad at me every time a monist. It makes it harder and harder to try and break this vicious cycle. I started with a counselor and we’ve covered some ground. She made me think about the first time I actually told a lie and why. My first day of counseling is very hard for me. I’m not looking forward to a repeat this week. But I knew it needs to be done in order for me to stop lying.