Liars Anonymous Community Group
A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!
My name is Matt, and I am a compulsive liar. Today is 12/17/16, and I can say that I have been honest for 6 hours. I had a long talk with my wife today - trying to get as much as we could out in the open. I started off the conversation by returning to my old habits, and trying to justify and rationalize my decisions, and choices - and lying about it. My wife did a great job at creating an environment where I didn't feel like I was being judged. I kept taking deep breaths, and returning to a place of truth, and even thought the topics, and questions were some of the hardest that I have ever faced in my life. I feel like a tremendous weight has been taken off my shoulders.
No matter how hard it is to tell the truth, I want to be able to think about how much harder and stressful it is to create a false realtiy, and try to keep that reality going be feeding it with lies, and deciet. And how good it felt that I was able to tell the truth.
I know that it's not much, but that it's a start. And it's a start in the direction that I want to go.
The bad part about this, is that I think it was too late, and that my wife is leaning more, and more towards divorce. And I have no one to blame for this situation but myself. I do hate what it's doing to, and going to continue to do to my kids. My wife, and my kids do not deserve to be suffering the consequences of my choices and actions. And I do hate myself for putting them thru this. But I am going to continue to work and go down this path towards being honest and truthful 100% of the time.
Thanks again for sharing. Very brave.
i went through the same thing today as well. my husband did not handle it with as much grace as your wife. We are on the verge of divorce and I'm not certain that he is coming home tonight. he did mention staying with his mom so i assume that is his plan. i don't want to call him to be sure as I think that is that case. i've been questioning why i hurt the ones most close to me and personally think it may be a symptom of a greater issue i've yet to discover. an old friend of mine suggested that it's a coping mechanism i've developed to deal with some childhood trauma yet i feel that i cannot and do not continue to blame my current actions for it yet i wonder if i am. i lie very very easily. almost as a instinct because i fear judgement from my spouse. i do not want to end our marriage yet i feel as though it is out of my control now. i wish i could offer more comfort but my glass is empty. i don't know what to do myself except emphasize with you as i feel your pain today as well. perhaps this is what we need to become our better selves? i too have a child with my spouse and the last thing i was is her to feel the pain i've felt as a child or divorce. good luck to you and me. i hope you work out your problems and i hope i work out my own.