Hello everyone. I'm new here and have been reading about very similar situations. It's heart breaking really. I'm in a 12year relationship. Both of us healthy and young. 29, 30. We occasionally have sex, but only with the help of alcohol. When it does happen, it's really all about her, and I often end up unsatified. This has been going on for years, and it's just starting to hurt more and more. I consider my age, and feel like I'm supposed to be having the time of my life. We're beyond the point of communicating, as that's not helping, and just ends up in heartache. I masturbate often, but lack the privacy sometimes. This makes it hard for me at times to even focus at work etc. We're so happy otherwise, but this is important to me. I know she feels inadequate mostly, and doesn't know what to do with me. The desire is still there. I'm just sick of always bringing this up in discussion also, so at this point we avoid it altogether. It's just sad. Anyway, thank you for listening, and good luck to you.