Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
This community is for those who are in a gay marriage, and the unique challenges that may be had in a same-sex relationship. Find support and talk to others in a same-sex marriage, and get advice from the experiences of other members.
hahaha well I'm sure ALOT of us have this problem. Ok well I'm not exactly traumatized by it but I would love to hear if any success stories.
Here's the thing, I'm pretty sure the girl I have the hots for is straight. She's my gym instructor (how typical right). She's super friendly and there's this awesome aura of self confidence about her which is the reason why I like her so much.
Hmmm my friends are telling me unless its confirmed that she's straight I shouldn't give up. The thing is how do I find out these things?? Her facebook profile doesn't state her sexual preferences and the only thing remotely "butch" about her is her athletic ability to lift as much weight as the next guy.
Oh and she likes rainbow colored things but still, straight girls can like rainbow colored things too right.
Anyway the point I'm trying to make is how can I find out if she is remotely gay or not? At least it would give me some idea how to go to next step, whether to let go or keeping pushing. Help? Thanks :)
Here's the thing, I'm pretty sure the girl I have the hots for is straight. She's my gym instructor (how typical right). She's super friendly and there's this awesome aura of self confidence about her which is the reason why I like her so much.
Hmmm my friends are telling me unless its confirmed that she's straight I shouldn't give up. The thing is how do I find out these things?? Her facebook profile doesn't state her sexual preferences and the only thing remotely "butch" about her is her athletic ability to lift as much weight as the next guy.
Oh and she likes rainbow colored things but still, straight girls can like rainbow colored things too right.
Anyway the point I'm trying to make is how can I find out if she is remotely gay or not? At least it would give me some idea how to go to next step, whether to let go or keeping pushing. Help? Thanks :)
Developing and finding a friendship is First and Foremost. It's the foundation All Healthy Connections are Built on. Work on that and all else will come to you :O)
I am not claiming that if I had stuck around it wouldv'e lasted and been a fairy tale love story but I have a firm belief that sexuality is somewhat of a fluid thing, in line with what Dr. Kinsey believed. But in your case I would do as MsTeri suggested and just develop a friendship (you probably already did months ago lol but I am responding as if this were a new post) and then let her take the reigns on anything further. Most people will pick up the vibe when they are being 'crushed on' by another person and if she senses that the feeling is there and she reciprocates than let the first move be on her. Easiest and most assured way to avoid embarrasement if there is nothing there. Have fun!