Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group

This community is for those who are in a gay marriage, and the unique challenges that may be had in a same-sex relationship. Find support and talk to others in a same-sex marriage, and get advice from the experiences of other members.

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Sarah09 02/13/2018

Me and my gf have been together almost 3 years. Ever since we got together it has been an on and off relationship. She would break up with me for her ex or sometimes no reason at all. She instantly regrets it and begs me to get back with her.

My problem is that everything seems to be about her all the time. Its always that something is going on in her life, that she was upset so it didn't mean anything.

To get to the point, the relationship is toxic and i know that but at the moment we're on a break. We have been for 5 weeks. The problem is that we have a holiday together in 2 months and i haven't got the heart to kick her off it. Every day since she called the break she's been starting arguments, using guilt trips, trying to force a reaction and im just not sure i Want her in my life anymore. My parents love her but she wont stay in their life if we're not together. Its more hassle than its worth but i still love her.

Lilly23 02/13/2018

Hi. It sounds like you answered ur own question. Based on what u wrote it seems like this relationship is more negative than positive and it's been 3 yrs without it getting better. Maybe since u 2 r on a break, now would be a good time to end the relationship.

Starsister 02/13/2018

Yup, you've answered your own question, but I know it's still sucks. My thoughts are with you.

Beer 02/16/2018

Life is to short sounds like she is a narcissist type personality Get out of that toxic relationship you sound like a caring solid level person you will meet some one worth loving TAKE CARE OF YOU

ris1234 02/25/2018

I think you answered your own question... if you have to question whether you want to be with someone or not, it’s not meant to be. She keeps running back to her ex that’s just showing that she’s not over that ex, and you shouldn’t be apart of that. It may be hard, but if you care for yourself and your well-being, you would do what makes you happy. Not stay in a situation where you have to question things.

Sarah09 02/25/2018

Thanks to everyone helping me through this difficult time. It has helped a lot!

bridgegirl 07/03/2018

You know the answer and we all confirm that your answers are the right thing to do. If you're unhappy and you know its toxic then nothing good will come out of it in the future. You need courage to finally say that its over. You need to know that there are no right words to say but just the raw truth from your heart. In a relationship, its not enough that one is in love, it takes two to tango. (such an old thing to say LOL) but its true, A relationship should be a two way thing. Give and take.
Hope that all is well with you now that months have already passed. And I hope that you made the right decision.

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Exwife 08/01/2018

I agree with everyone, and why let her screw up your holiday? It's such a great opportunity to get away without her. Take a friend or go by yourself. You said you don't have the heart to kick her off it, but it seems like she doesn't have a problem making you miserable. Of all the words you could have used to describe your relationship, you used toxic. That really says it all.

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