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Should I confront or Blow it Off

lrg
lrg
After my partener and I split about 5 years ago she met this guy and at the begining I was introduced to him. He told her that he liked me and she told him about us and not to make her choose.
As time has gone on all of sudden the wall went up, I'm not invited over, (the excuse is she is too busy) she won't call me if he is around, if he walks in when she is talking to me she says I gotta I gotta go. if I see him at one of the kids functions, Easter, Christmas he dosen't acknowledge me. If I say hi he turns away from me.
Why dosen't she just come out and tell me what is going on? It hurts me more that I had to figure it out. We have known each other for a long time and was in a releationship for about 6 years. I did try to bring it up but she got devensive as soon as I got one sentence out. I'm allowing this to eat me up inside. What should I do??
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi there! I guess I am wondering why is your ex's new partner's opinion of you so important that you are torn up inside. Is this hindering you from interacting with the kids? How much daily interaction do you still have with your ex? Are you in a relationship now?
I'm not sure what you are looking for, so it's hard to advise. Wishing you the best...
lrg
lrg
It's important to me because before he came we hung around all of the time. We would go hang out and do things, have morning coffee etc. Then after he came it continued for a little while and then without warning the wall went up. It dosen't matter she is in a relationship. What matters is she is not being straight up with me on why I can't visit, go to the farmes market. I'm not looking to spend a lot of time because she has a relationship but don't cut me off either tell me the truth. With him, he called me on my birthday to wish me happy birthday and tell me I'm family and then he treats me like this?
dreamsicle
dreamsicle
It sounds as if you are missing your friend, and are perphaps a little jealous of the time she spends with him. That is so common in both gay and straight friendships, two very good friends drift apart when one of them becomes involved with a new love interest.

I do not see a reason to confront them, nor do I see a reason to totally blow them off. Perphaps you could make a new friend to have coffee with, and maybe consider dating someone new, just for fun. Wait for your ex to contact you, let her seek out your company.

Your said "I am allowing this to eat me up inside" That means that you know you have the power to stop letting "it" feast on your insides. Find something positive, fun, or helpful to focus on, and begin moving away on the inside. Call someone else for morning coffee and perphaps an evening movie. GOOD LUCK