Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
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Two years ago or so I fell madly in love with a girl, my best friend (my coming out story x) but she was totally straight and when I told her, our friendship started to fall apart. That's when I met another girl who helped me through it and was very understandable. However she was straight as well, at least untill we kissed. We started dating and I thought I was over the moon for her, we've been together for almost a year now. She younger than me for one year, and I'm going to college to another country, something she's been terrified of !! She even asked me not to go, but it's my future, I can't forgo the opportunity, right? Also, lately, I've been feeli weird about her, I feel like we're not right, and she's very jealous of EVERYTHING and we text every minute !! If I don't answ within 10 to 20 minutes, she texts again and we have to fall asleep "together" in a phonecall. I feel smothered sometimes and I told her but she doesn't change. I don't know what to do, she's SOOOO sweet and caring, GORGEOUS !! I'm afraid of leaving this secure relationship, I think I may regret it latter if I end it. However, she was my first girlfriend !! I've never dated before .. What if I don't love her? I'd be lying to her and myself, right? I really don't know what to do !! Please help me !
However, if you're still willing to give this relationship a go, then I suggest having a serious talk about what's happening with your girlfriend. If she's open to it, she wouldn't take your concerns as attacks. Rather, she should treat your concerns as your desire to improve and keep the relationship. If she cares enough, she'll understand and try to avoid making you feel smothered.
Hope this helps :)
You will need to summon your strength to do the right, mature, kindest thing. Remember that ripping the band-aid off in one fast motion (kindly, sweetly honestly telling her its over) hurts much less than slowly ripping it off (playing wishy-washy games to lead her on). Regardless, the band-aid has to come off and the wound has to heal.
I hope you do the kind, right thing by gently honestly, directly letting her know you are moving on, and most importantly after you've ended it...keeping total no contact so she can begin to heal.
This will one of many tough decisions you'll have to make in life, but if you do it with honor and kindness it will be much easier for everyone. (hug) Good luck.
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