Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group

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alimac2009 07/14/2008

I have never been in any kind of relationship before and I am just yearning for some love, I am getting too desperate and Its damaging my life to a severe extent. I really dont know what to do, I just want the emotional love, the companionship and its like no matter what I do I cant have it, I dont know what to do, and the desperation is making it as bad as to lead to.....(gggrrr, dont want to post it on here) porn addictions. Does that make sense? It makes sense to me, and I know that if I can find something else to do, or someone to fill the hole I have in my heart, than it wont be as bad as it is, if a problem at all. I just dont know how to find anyone....there arent any lesbians around here and I know that there may be some that just havent come out yet, but I just dont know how to do this, I came very close a few times but they all would rather have gone out with someone else, someone they have dated before....etc. I think I need some advice but I think people respond to discussions more than advice.....plz tell me what u think I should do....anyone???

hiddenbeauty10 07/15/2008

gay bars. lol.
Yeah I know the feeling though.
Try talking ppl on here.
Im sorry I hope ive helped at least a little bit. take care,deary.

deleted_user 07/15/2008

this sounds weird but myspace... i was new to where i live and added people who lived around me and now i have found many lesbians.. and if thats too creepy for you id try and find gay bars.. if no gaybars then find some activity.. trust me when i say i know where your at.. myspace helped me

deleted_user 07/15/2008

all i can say is that i know exactly how u feel!

alimac2009 07/15/2008

ok, 2 outr of 3 say gay bars and iv done my research and the closest gay bar from me is about and hour or two away. Plus I am only 16 and a half so Im not aloud in any kind of bar. I am already on myspace and have been trying to find people on that for almost a year now. I found a few people but after I thought we were ready and I asked her, she said she JUST STARTED dating an ex boyfriend and it didnt work out last time it might not work out this time.....yea, same thing that happend when I met someone I like on myyearbook.....I asked her and she said the same thing. Its as if Im repelling them, or something, Iv been on here for about a year or so, and everyone on ds seems really nice but no one relationship wise, I just started this group last night however, so I just dont know.......

deleted_user 07/15/2008

None? No lesbians at all? Where do you live?
Jane

deleted_user 07/16/2008

Honey,

I forgot to suggest that you start listening to Savage Lovecast. It's a sex advice podcast that is by Dan Savage a great gay man. He answers questions from all kinds of people and he has GREAT advice for young gay people living in tiny towns with no GLBT folks. This week he addresses that with a 16 yr old gay kid from the deep south... as he says "The Buckle of the Bible Belt" in episode 91. Just Google Dan Savage and or Savage Lovecast and you'll find it. You can downoad it for FREE at iTunes.
Let me know what you think.
JaneEgirl

deleted_user 07/16/2008

i agree with myspace, or other networking sites. I live in a place with a billion lesbians, i'm just too chicken to get up and talk to any of them and I'm only 20 so bars are out. theres also coffee shops and all. how far is the nearest city? theres got to be some there.

alimac2009 07/17/2008

well, the nearest city is athens and its half an hour away, and its just businesses like walmart and mcdonalds, and houses. The closest place with anything resembling a coffee shop or gay bar, is over an hour away. There are regular bars everywhere right where I live, but these people all know each other, most of them are probably related. My dad was playing for a birthday party in a bar once and I was allowed in, and i knew everyone that was there....and it was next to our house....wow rambling...aw well, its my post thingy anyways...(not ment to b conceited)

deleted_user 07/17/2008

well as i've looked at your profile a bit, and realized your 16.....i wouldn't suggest a gay bar lol because you;re not going to get in.

what i would suggest is to stop looking for love, love will find you....you have to be perfectly happy being you and being single before a relationship is a possibility......

deleted_user 07/18/2008

In just a few years you can leave your rural community and go to a city to hopefully continue your education (plan now) Dont worry and be patient you are very young. At your age many are not out yet or are confused. You can get hurt with one of those. Take it easy.

deleted_user 07/18/2008

I agree with the last two posts, I know you might not feel it but you are very young so don't rush things! Also I don't want to sound nasty but you said that you feel that you are repelling these girls/women, maybe they think/feel that you are desperate and trust me that is a put off, so relax and take your time! If you use porn thats ok. I am single and use porn A LOT so your not the only one, so don't be ashamed or embarrased about it, you are human and have needs! So my advice is carry on using porn if you need to and try to relax more around women.

deleted_user 07/21/2008

i repel people... its like somepeople get sex apeal and other get the oppisit... i cannot attract anyone... girls or guys... im getting really lonely

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