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lesbians please answer me is it common or is it rare when lesbians masterbate together or one of them masterbating while being penetrated vaginally and/or anally by there girlfriend while having sex tip orgasm?? Is this something "normal" or is this the wrong way to have lesbian sex??
I'm in a new relationship just stared 2 weeks ago my girlfriend's ego has went down the tubes because she was unable to give me an orgasm but i was successfully able to give her orgasm (her sex drive is out of this world!!) I've been having and enjoying having sex while masterbating with previous girlfriends. i occasionally towards the end of my last relationship have received orgasm without masterbating which took some time for my ex girlfriend to learn that.
my current girlfriend now never had sex while masterbating she had no problems giving and receiving orgasms without masterbation as that is something that is not that appealing to her as it is to me.
is there something wrong with me?? why does it take more time for the other person to learn how to give me an orgasm without me masterbating??? is this a normal process or is this something i should be able to perform with no problem like my girlfriend?? PLEASE HELP =(
PS: she is always giving me lots of pressure that i have to orgasm by her touch even though we just started having sex. she feels no pressure from me as it is easy for her to orgasm when i touch her. but when she touches me i feel incredible pressure and she is not doing it the way i like it. is there something going wrong with me?? why is it easier for others to orgasm fast but for me my touch and the way i like to be touched is so precise??? i've always masterbated while having sex and enjoy it very much and i have received orgasm without masterbating myself before it just takes time always for the other person to learn, why can't i just orgasm easy without pressure from my girlfriend as its so easy for her to cum by my touch?Please help =( i feel like something could be wrong with me.
I'm in a new relationship just stared 2 weeks ago my girlfriend's ego has went down the tubes because she was unable to give me an orgasm but i was successfully able to give her orgasm (her sex drive is out of this world!!) I've been having and enjoying having sex while masterbating with previous girlfriends. i occasionally towards the end of my last relationship have received orgasm without masterbating which took some time for my ex girlfriend to learn that.
my current girlfriend now never had sex while masterbating she had no problems giving and receiving orgasms without masterbation as that is something that is not that appealing to her as it is to me.
is there something wrong with me?? why does it take more time for the other person to learn how to give me an orgasm without me masterbating??? is this a normal process or is this something i should be able to perform with no problem like my girlfriend?? PLEASE HELP =(
PS: she is always giving me lots of pressure that i have to orgasm by her touch even though we just started having sex. she feels no pressure from me as it is easy for her to orgasm when i touch her. but when she touches me i feel incredible pressure and she is not doing it the way i like it. is there something going wrong with me?? why is it easier for others to orgasm fast but for me my touch and the way i like to be touched is so precise??? i've always masterbated while having sex and enjoy it very much and i have received orgasm without masterbating myself before it just takes time always for the other person to learn, why can't i just orgasm easy without pressure from my girlfriend as its so easy for her to cum by my touch?Please help =( i feel like something could be wrong with me.
There is nothing wrong with you. Many things can affect sex drive and orgasms. Weight, age, diet hell even genes! The point being that others being able to orgasm easier of faster than you is down to things you may not be able to control. I think my GF was in the same predicament as you.
My GF ((i have asked her an it is ok to use this xD)) finds it very hard to orgasm, always has...Does not mean she loves me any less or that I am doing anything wrong. Now me and my Life Mate have been together for going on 2 years and in the beginning I admit my ego did flail when she couldn't orgasm and I also admit to putting pressure on her....UNTIL she spoke to me about it...we had a long discussion about it and well since I have an exposed clit and the such orgasm has never been an issue for me...and such ill never fully understand the issues I understand roughly that it is not my fault,
this is something you two need to talk about seriously before you can move on. She needs to know this is not her fault and you need to not feel pressure because the more pressure your put under the less likely orgasm is.
anyways i hope this helped
Paws
Take your time & communicate....tell your GF how you like to be touched & exactly where & show her if you feel it would be helpful.
Remember, sex is not like brushing your teeth. Savor the pleasureable build-up & enjoy the other person for who they are not just what they are. I sure couldn't orgasm with someone I'd only been with for 2 weeks. I'm identified as "demi-sexual" which means I require a deep emotional/mental/spiritual bond with someone before I can "let go".